Last Time I am Reaching Out

[Gingi 19]

Guys, I have been coming here since I was sleeved in May 0f this year (2015). Lately when I have reached out for help, advice or with questions I have basically gotten the attitude of "best wishes..." I am not here for well wishes, I am here fr support, help and feedback. I am so frustrated that this will be my last post if no one reaches back. Things are dire.

I was sleeved as I stated in May of 2015, I have had the usual trial and error and a lot of bumps. I just had my gallbladder out 2 days ago and then yesterday my Aunt passed unexpectedly. She was the last connection that I had to my mother that I lost way too soon in my younger years.

I have awful reflux and am having an endoscopy on 10/18. I am dealing with a gut on fire, post op pain and extreme greif. I don't know what to do with myself.

I cant go to the gym, I can't binge eat and I can't drink. I have had friends over and gotten out of the house and gone for a car ride. No ease in my pain and suffering. I have written in my journal, meditated, knitted and had people over,

Someone PLEASE HELP ME. What am I missing? I am having so much trouble coping, and what does anyone recommend what to try next?

[Invictus 56]

I am so sorry things have been so difficult for you. I know this is probably not the best advice, but I had my dose of anti depressant increased. It has helped some, it was difficult for me to deal with the stress I have at school and home. Before, I would eat something stupid, I can't do that anymore. But my situation is nothing compared to what you are going through. Do you have a pastor or therapist you can call on? If my meds don't keep me on track, that will be my next option,

[Gingi 19]

Things I failed to mention in my original post. My surgeon has withheld my anti depressants until my 2 week follow up from my gallbladder surgery. I have been seeing a therapist fir about 6 months prior to my WLS and I am scheduled to see him again on Friday, I am just trying tostay strong until then.

Guys, I have been coming here since I was sleeved in May 0f this year (2015). Lately when I have reached out for help, advice or with questions I have basically gotten the attitude of "best wishes..." I am not here for well wishes, I am here fr support, help and feedback. I am so frustrated that this will be my last post if no one reaches back. Things are dire.

I was sleeved as I stated in May of 2015, I have had the usual trial and error and a lot of bumps. I just had my gallbladder out 2 days ago and then yesterday my Aunt passed unexpectedly. She was the last connection that I had to my mother that I lost way too soon in my younger years.

I have awful reflux and am having an endoscopy on 10/18. I am dealing with a gut on fire, post op pain and extreme greif. I don't know what to do with myself.

I cant go to the gym, I can't binge eat and I can't drink. I have had friends over and gotten out of the house and gone for a car ride. No ease in my pain and suffering. I have written in my journal, meditated, knitted and had people over,

Someone PLEASE HELP ME. What am I missing? I am having so much trouble coping, and what does anyone recommend what to try next?

[MaryPh 78]

Are you able to go for walks outside? You're dealing with an awful lot, but if there is any sort of physical activity you can do, it will help. My other nonfood go-to for relaxation and peace of mind is a nice long bubble bath. I've also been attending OA meetings to help with my head hunger/food addiction issues. Having a fellowship of people who understand the struggle is very helpful for me.

Please don't be too hard on yourself. You've been through too much and need to take time to grieve!

[jane13 2,256]

grief counseling? my dad died when i was seven and my mom 16 years later. my mom's sister is like my mom....I cannot imagine life without her. my youngest is legal trouble and she has stepped up. post surgery is trying enough without the drama. I read a lot and have been walking.

24 w/o goes in front of judge Wednesday and like you I am stressing.

[pixie09 9]

I am new here but if I could I would put my arms around you and give you a big hug.

Some times I go out on the deck and take some long deep breaths and it helps me .

So hope you will find a good place to find some peace.

[Mom26 313]

I am so sorry for your loss and for pain. When my sister died (the day before my 30th birthday), the grief was indescribable. It felt as if life was going on around me and I was stuck in a state of utter despair. I found the only thing that kept me sane was keeping busy. I know with your pain, your limited with what you can do - but maybe you can find a way to keep busy. Do you work outside the home? If so, maybe that will help keep your mind occupied for at least part of the day. When you find you have down-time, use the time for something you have to focus on. Can you watch a new tv series on demand? One you'll have to concentrate to follow. Read a book - or better yet, listen to a book on tape. You'll have to focus on it, hopefully easing the focus on your incredible grief. Keep in mind that everyone has their own timeline on grief. Each day set a goal to try to cope with your grief. Explain to your friends how devastated you are and ask them to spend more time with you - to keep you company, and more importantly to keep you busy. Grief is normal. Reaching out for help is a huge step in learning how to live a new "normal" without someone you love so dearly. <3

[drmeow 323]

I think there is the problem right there. You've been taken off an anti-depressant suddenly and you're having severe withdrawal from it. These drugs are not meant to come off quickly. And you have to deal with personal grief as well as surgical recovery on top of that! Do you know why he's with-holding your anti-depressant? I'd double check with him, and find out why, and if it has to be, ask for something to take in the meantime. I've been on anti depressants for years and have had multiple surgeries (including gall bladder) which did not require stopping them. Different drugs have different requirements of course but they should be able to give you something to tide you over.

Things I failed to mention in my original post. My surgeon has withheld my anti depressants until my 2 week follow up from my gallbladder surgery. I have been seeing a therapist fir about 6 months prior to my WLS and I am scheduled to see him again on Friday, I am just trying to stay strong until then.

[MzB 297]

@@Gingi

Just checking in on you to see how things are going. Are they better/worse/the same? Just reading this thread and thinking of your. Hugs.

[joannct1 59]

Just checking in on you! couenseling helps, also very sorry for your loss, i had sleeve surgery may 21,15. i have had ups and downs too!!

[joannct1 59]

Hows your Water intake? Carbs. exercise???

[joannct1 59]

I have had ups and downs dec 21 will be 7 months post op, i have lost 105 i hope to lose maybe 30 more pounds. I was 258 i am now 154, i am age 57, i am off insulin, bp med cholesterol med. i still take Armour thyroid, i am hypothyroid. I am 5"2

Edited December 21, 2015 by joannct1

[rking 484]

First of all, in my opinion you need back on that antidepressant!!!! Tell doc what you feel and how you need help. Beg if necessary.

Everyone has said all I can say except one thing...... I find that if I do something for others, it makes me feel better. I, too, suffer from depression and have for years. Maybe volunteer somewhere locally. Help the homeless, help at a shelter. Something.

Hang in there sister. Things will get better. My email is midlandrhonda@gmail.com if you want to keep in touch.

[joannct1 59]

Mine is joanntroupe2@gmail.com no capitals ty

I am at a phase in my later 50s i need some real friends. Ty jo ann