Emotional Mess

[Nessa0121 14]

My surgery is scheduled for tomorrow and I'm sitting here in tears wondering why am I doing this?

My husband and I aren't speaking. I want him to be compassionate and understanding of how I feel and he just acts like nothing is changing.

On top of that the liquid diet is doing awful things to me. I've messed myself twice and am now wearing an adult diaper.

Sorry for the pitty party

[SleeveandRNYchica 1,155]

I am so sorry you are going through this! Is your husband not speaking with you because you are having surgery? You guys gotta talk before you go into surgery. Has he not been supportive this entire time?

[Nessa0121 14]

He's been off and on with his support. I'd guess most of it is from fear but he won't open up.

We aren't speaking at the moment because I was a cranky person this morning and first thing I did when I got up was yell at him and the children. Luckily, children are much more forgiving

[SleeveandRNYchica 1,155]

Try to get yourself together for tomorrow. You will need your rest and energy for healing. I hope you can work through what happened today. I would just reiterate to him that you are nervous and did not mean to take it out on them. Heck, that preop diet can put the nicest of people on the edge! I wish you the best. Please let us know how your surgery goes.

[Nessa0121 14]

Thank you very much

[The Candidate 3,215]

Of course you're feeling stressed and that's perfectly normal. This is a time when it's not only okay but paramount that you focus your attention entirely on yourself. This is for you, for your health, and for your future. Review all the reasons why you started out on this journey in the first place. I'm betting that not one of those reasons has changed.

Try your best to get a good night's sleep. Your future is waiting!

[Djmohr 6,965]

Time to take some time and breathe deeply. What you are feeling is normal. The liquid diet does not help the situation.

I remember my husband who was very supportive of me yelling at me because my brain was just not functioning. I remember literally screaming at him 2 days before my surgery. " I said let me take all food away from you and you live on Protein shakes and chicken broth for 2 weeks and see how your brain functions"

It shut him up fast and then of course I apologized and explained that my brain was very foggy.

Then the day before my surgery I got very emotional and realized it was just nerves.

I spent 30 minutes doing deep breathing exercises and then went and soaked in a hot bath listening to relaxing music. I swear if helped me so very much. I was excited to have surgery but nervous all at the same time.

Everything will go great for you, you just need to clear your head a little bit.

Tell hubby that you love him and everything is going to be fine. You are going to be a much healthier person in a very short amount of time. This is just one of the bumps along your journey.

good luck to you tomorrow and keep us posted!

Best wishes for a safe and speedy recovery!

P.S. My husband did try the liquid diet and literally gave up before the first day was over!

[James Marusek 5,244]

Good luck on your surgery tomorrow and let us know how it went after you return home.

[Nessa0121 14]

Hubby and I did talk and as always he proved to me why I married him. I apologized for being mean and nasty and he told me to take a nap and realize that it will all be okay.

He is a really good guy!

In the meantime I also had a good cry with my mom who had the sleeve done 2 years ago and she continues to guarantee that in a month from now it will all be worth it.

Thank you all for your kind words

[SleeveandRNYchica 1,155]

So happy to hear! You will do great tomorrow.

[RNYDawn 160]

Thinking of you @@Nessa0121!!!!