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[sheddinglbs2015 1]

Hello! I had my VGS on 9/16. So far things are going well. I've been reading things from this site and find it helpful. I've not told many of my friends or family that I was having this surgery. My best friend knows, as she had this procedure 3 years ago, and my mother knows. I would just like to talk with individuals going through the same thing and same addiction (food, carbs). I was the jolly fat friend in the group, so my friends don't really understand.

[Megdelyn 85]

Welcome to the club! You'll find lots of support here.

[heatherfields 11]

Welcome Sheddinglbs! I am getting the band on Monday.

I too didn't really want to tell anyone (I would have only told my mom, who was my BF, but she passed away two yrs ago). Of course, my husband knew, and my BF as well.

And then I kept running into problems with not telling people. Like, why aren't you eating?, why don't you ever want to go to lunch anymore, etc.

So, one day my husband asked me, why be secretive? Are you ashamed you are making this choice? That made me really angry! I was like, of course not! I am going to be so much healthier bc of this decision! But, his questions did hit home. It didn't feel good trying to hide a decision that I should be so excited about. His response? So own it, and be proud! You've made a decision to be healthier, and WLS isn't the easy route! I decided he was right.

So, one by one I have let people know. Their responses haven't all been positive, but that's ok. I'm doing what is best for me! And I feel so much better owning my decision & not hiding it. I actually feel empowered now when telling people. I am taking control of my weight.

The best part? My aunt (all the women in my family are overweight) said to me - wow, that's gutsy! Good for you making your dream become your reality! ☺️ I didn't think that would be her response!

So, everyone is different, but for me, disclosing my decision was the best choice. Good luck to you!

[The Candidate 3,215]

Welcome to the club and congrats!

[sheddinglbs2015 1]

Thank you!

I've always been a private person so it wouldn't surprise anyone that I didn't come right out with the news. However, you are right Ms Heatherfields, I need to own it! So I will slowly tell people.

Thank you for the kind welcoming and encouragement. I'm looking forward to this journey