Literally sitting in bed crying right now

[LoseItKacy 347]

I'm so overwhelmed. My surgery is a little more than two weeks away. And I think it's all finally kicking in. I've been working REALLY hard to educate myself and i literally feel like I couldn't be anymore prepared.

But it's seriously emotionally draining. I KNOW I'm making the right choice so I don't really know why I'm this overwhelmed.

I think it's because I can't believe I'm actually doing it. I never thought it would come to this. I just can't believe that I didn't take care of myself. How could I do this to my body? I put on weight physically but I've also put on weight mentally. I'm prepared to take the weight off all aspects of my life but just thinking about how life changing this surgery is is a lot to take in.

Anybody else feel like they are hit with an emotional train before surgery?

[SPettijo 40]

:hugs: Yes, yes I did go through that. I was also really excited. Surgery is big step and it may not feel like it, but it's a positive thing you are this emotional before hand. If you were just treating it like a spa day then people would be worried. I lso went through 'buyers remorse' after surgery. I can tell you at the beginning of week nine I'm not where I's suppose to be food and Water intake wise but I've lost the weight and am incredibly happy with the progress. If you want to talk more feel free to message me.

[Restoration15 6]

I have not lost much weight at all. I had my band removed in December 2013 and sleeved March 2014 and only lost 34 pds and gained back 13 pds. Now I've learned I'm battling hypoglycemia. I worked out hard over the past few years watched my fat intake and now I'm told I'm not getting enough fat in and to stop working out. Been battling dehydration for over year. I get headaches and acid feeling from my stomach which triggers headaches. I really regret this surgery. All of them

[Dream4tc 192]

Awww Hugs! We all make choices in our lives that we wish we could go back and change, however we all know we can't change the past, but we CAN change our futures! We can make the right choices if we choose to. This decision is life changing and it is very emotionally draining, questioning ourselves at every turn. It is scary when we see changes coming. We are a creature of habit and we feel comfortable when things stay the same. Sometimes we need to jump out of our comfort zone and take a leap of faith. This surgery is my leap. I don't know what is on the other side, but I hope it is for the better, it has to be, and I will try my best to make it that way. I wonder all the time, if I should back out, but I forsee a shorter life span with my loved ones with Diabetes and heart disease in the future if I don't. Consider a therapist if you are still feeling unsure of your decision. Hugs

[Roux2011-1 12]

Oh sunshine, if I can only tell you how many times we've all done that before surgery but just kind of focus on what you feel like now and how healthy are going to be afterwords buyers remorse is one of the worst things but truly I can't speak for everyone but I've never wanted anything more than my surgery and I did everything in anything to get it the only thing that Saved my life if I only have one regret it would be that you were more discussions on The psychological physical and spiritual issues that come with surgery I'm not a doctor so don't quote me but I do know that when we are heavy for so long and you become thing in your whole world changes but you'll do great If you'd like to message me or talk feel free.

[Sherry G 95]

Oh yes honey! I was flipping out and scared but it's the best thing you can do for yourself and you will be so happy you did it. ❤️❤️❤️

[esskay77 785]

It's completely normal to have these feelings. You might even have a bit of buyer's remorse for a few days or weeks after the surgery. But then everything changes and your only regret might be that you didn't do it sooner. OK, so I'm projecting--that was me! But that is so true. You are just nervous, probably feeling like you should give weight watchers one more try or something like that. Some people are afraid of success--how would that feel, how will people treat me, that sort of thing. All normal things. But, it really helps to see a therapist before and after surgery.

It was good that you had a good cry but now it's time to take control of your life. Put your head up, stop crying, and move forward, whichever way that is for you. Own your decision! And make the best of it.

Keep us posted. We are all pulling for you, even if it means you decided to not have the surgery.

[lsheshequin 83]

I am 4 mths post-op today (RNY) and I have absolutely no regrets. Within about 2-4 weeks before my surgery I got a major case of second thoughts, and even spoke to my bariatric team about possibly cancelling. They didn't try to sway me either way, just laid out the facts/statistics (again). I am so happy that I decided to go through with it. I was lucky, I had no complications and have only had one episode of "dumping" so far. As of today I am down 65 lbs and I feel fantastic! I am honestly happier than I've been in a long time. Everyday feels like another chapter in a new life just waiting to be discovered! Ultimately the decision is yours but know that there are so many successes and new found lives out there thanks to WLS.

[The Candidate 3,215]

These feelings are normal, almost to the point of being a rite of passage. This will be a dramatic change, of that there's no doubt. But it's a positive change, a life affirming change. I'm six weeks out and I definitely have no regrets. What I gave up in no way compares to the foothold I already have in a healthy, extended life. Take deep breaths and focus on what you'll be able to achieve in the future. Good luck!

[sparksrn 65]

@@LoseItKacy If you weren't having these feelings you wouldn't be normal. This is big, real big, and permanent! You are changing your life, leaving one you have known and felt safe with. It's like jumping off a roof and hoping you made the right choice when you decided what side of the building to jump off and that someone will catch you! Life will never be the same again! The good thing is it will be better!! Not at first, believe me you will wonder what on Earth you did to yourself at first. It gets better and then it gets fabulous! It's all good. I sat at the hospital the morning of my EGD (required by my surgeon before he would do surgery) just crying like a baby, wondering if I was doing the right thing. Now, just a little over 3 months out I'm sure it was the right thing. I was never going to lose the weight any other way, I was eating myself right into an early grave!

[purz59 57]

I'm scheduled for Oct 29th but already losing sleep worrying about the changes. I'm 56 and worried about being put to sleep and how I will handle all the life changes. I read a horror story and really freak out. I know in my heart and head, however, that I have to do this to save my life. Try meditation. It often helps me when I'm stressed. Deep breathing...

[marie beal 4]

You need to see the counselor one more time. good luck

[LoseItKacy 347]

Thanks everyone for the support. I'm feeling a lot better today. I think I was just railroaded by reality. I've been working with a therapist from the beginning and he told me in the past that it's normal to feel this way I just never thought it would happen to me. I am really confidant in my decision and I know it's the right one. I think last night was just the wake up moment. This morning I feel like I'm really ready. I think I just needed to let it all out last night. I'm just ready for it to be here already. I'm so ready to move forward with my life.

[Sherry G 95]

You've got this!! ????