obsessing about weight loss?

[Healthy_life2 8,322]

Anyone still obsessing about weight loss after goal.

I find myself looking up my body type in Model my diet and what real women look like. Every day on the scale afraid to gain. I wish I could stop myself from comparing stats on bariatricpal. I think its just me. I can't seem to relax and let go of a years worth of focus on weight loss.

[CowgirlJane 14,259]

Some of it is normal...it takes awhile to adjust. Be careful you don't turn one eating dysfunction (over eating) in to a different one though.

[Babbs 14,680]

Yup,

I look at you at the same height and think "Why shouldn't I go down to 132 pounds?"

But then I think I've never been that thin in my life and want to get to a weight I can pretty much stay at without gaining every time I eat a grape, lol. I MAY try for 140, but I'll see how my body feels. So far it keeps wanting to lose, so I'll see when it finally says "STOP!".

[Healthy_life2 8,322]

@@Babbs

I have never been this weight in my life ...well maybe at 13. Switching my focus to other things in life I thought would be easier. I seem to be stuck.

[pink dahlia 2,513]

Anyone still obsessing about weight loss after goal.

I find myself looking up my body type in Model my diet and what real women look like. Every day on the scale afraid to gain. I wish I could stop myself from comparing stats on bariatricpal. I think its just me. I can't seem to relax and let go of a years worth of focus on weight loss.

What makes you think you're not a "real woman " ? How do you know that there is'nt someone out there who is looking at you as a role model ? Try giving yourself a 5 lb range, and as long as you dont go above or below that number, call it good !! Being healthy and strong is more important than a number on a scale ! Great job ! Keep it up !

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

I think it takes a while for our self-image to catch up with reality, especially with such a drastic change. Do you have a counselor or therapist who can help you adjust? From what I can tell, this is a very common issue when you lose a significant amount of weight.

[Healthy_life2 8,322]

@@CowgirlJane

i admit. Carbs are a slippery slope to me. It seems to be wheat thins. I know i need to get them out of the house. All they do is trigger more hunger. I'm thinking of trying plant based to see if that changes things. I know none of us are exempt from weight gain. Still trying to find a balance. My fear of gain is keeping me on task right now. But I'm hearing it is harder after the two year mark. I'm thankful for the vets and their honesty.

[Healthy_life2 8,322]

@@pink dahlia

I should have been more clear. What " REAL" women look like is just the name of the web site. The site is women that have posted photos of their body type. You type in your weight, height and the size you wear. It has helped me to see myself as no longer obese I know very much I am a woman..lol To better understand please take a look at the sites I mentioned.

What real women look like.

http://www.mybodygallery.com/

Model my diet is a weight loss simulator.

http://www.modelmydiet.com/

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

This is a weird, weird trip. At least, mine is.

I thought I was done at 150. Then at 145. Then for the last few months I've kept losing very, very slowly, even while eating what I think is a lot for me (as close to 1700 cals as I can get down). Then last week I hit 141. And over the weekend I came down with a roaring intestinal bug and by yesterday morning was down to 138.8. So I ate really hard yesterday and am back up to 140 this morning. Whew!

But yesterday I kept looking in the mirror and thinking ... "Hmmm ... this is a new look, and it's not so bad. Hmmm."

Jeez. I'm more fucked up than I thought.

@@CowgirlJane and others who've been maintaining for a long time ... I wish you would chime in here and comment some more on this topic. Is this just "another phase" of WLS? Does it go away (for most folks)?

[Healthy_life2 8,322]

@@Inner Surfer Girl

I do have a counselor. I see her every 6 months. She realty has no input. She wants me to talk and figure things out for myself. I herd it is common for the self image thing to catch up. Wishing it was over already. I feel like I'm obsessive compulsive when it comes to the websites I posted above. Lol I have to seriously stop myself.

[Healthy_life2 8,322]

@VSGAnn2014

A a friend in my local bariatric group. told me to stop loosing. The look on her face told me that her comment was definitely not a compliment. My local support group last night was finally a topic for people a year or more out. The facilitator told a room full of us that some of us need to put on about 10 pound to look less skeletal..Wow as if my head is not fucked up enough...

[Healthy_life2 8,322]

I fly out to see family and friends tomorrow.( My goal reward). I wish I could get my head to shut the hell up. When I was so heavy. My hope then was to be a bit smaller out of embarrassment of my weight. I'm still telling myself I got to get to the gym and drop more weight before I see them. Again..My messed up thinking.

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

Jeez, I dunno if I'd want to have been in that room. "Skeletal." Hmmm. That's an interesting choice of words.

What's your weight in the photo of yourself taken above?

[Healthy_life2 8,322]

@@VSGAnn2014

the photo was 137. A healthy BMI. The other comment I had is from my surgeons PA. He told me at 140 I should drop to 130 to be my Ideal weight. REALLY..Again why do people say this crap.

[Babbs 14,680]

This is a weird, weird trip. At least, mine is.

I thought I was done at 150. Then at 145. Then for the last few months I've kept losing very, very slowly, even while eating what I think is a lot for me (as close to 1700 cals as I can get down). Then last week I hit 141. And over the weekend I came down with a roaring intestinal bug and by yesterday morning was down to 138.8. So I ate really hard yesterday and am back up to 140 this morning. Whew!

But yesterday I kept looking in the mirror and thinking ... "Hmmm ... this is a new look, and it's not so bad. Hmmm."

Jeez. I'm more fucked up than I thought.

@@CowgirlJane and others who've been maintaining for a long time ... I wish you would chime in here and comment some more on this topic. Is this just "another phase" of WLS? Does it go away (for most folks)?

@@VSGAnn2014

I'm so happy to hear you say this. Well, not that you are "f***** up", but you know what I mean....

I thought I was crazy to not be happy at goal. Each pound lost, I think "Okay, I can go 5 more". I know I wanted to give myself a "buffer", but when does it end? Why is an almost 50 year old woman succumbing to societies "standards" of beauty? I'm a size 6 for God's sake!

When is it enough? I see it on this site all the time, and it scares me. And it's not just WLS patients, either. My sister, who has just recently lost like 53 pounds on Weight Watchers keeps getting lower because she wants to give herself a 5 pound "buffer" (sound familiar?). Now it's turned into 10 pounds. And it doesn't help we have some sick, sibling rivalry thing going on with our weight loss. I lose 1, she wants to lose 2. Now she's 5 pounds thinner than I am. And it's driving me crazy.

Jeez I sound like a fucking crazy person. Excuse me while I adjust the straps on my straight jacket....