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Well I had RNY June 12th. Down 80 total and feeling not too bad. I went to my first family gathering and was disappointed in the old feelings and habits. I think I did ok but I don't feel I did. I snacked on peanuts and pea crisps. Then had dinner. I didn't eat passed fullness but feel I ate more then I would have had it been a normal day. I'm in a funk. Not sure if it's PMS, my depo provera shot is due, or what. I have gained 2 pounds, assuming Water from the depo due date. My thoughts of food are back and I'm fighting them everyday. I am scared I can't do this and don't want to fight all the time. It's only been 3 months. Please tell me my efforts of fighting these desires will lessen if I stay strong. I don't want this all to be for nothing. I love where I'm headed and try to remind myself of that when the going gets tough but as we all know the food can be stronger. I haven't given in yet and hope I can keep fighting.

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@linedancer718 I'm going to message you privately. Hope you don't mind.

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You CAN do this. I have said a cajillion times if not more here, that the key to all the head hunger, is dealing with food addiction issues, in therapy. Don't worry, you are NOT alone! Many of us have these issues, that's how we got to this place.

You are doing great! Seriously. You've lost what I have in less time too! Not to make comparisons, but you can't beat yourself up. Not like this. That will only make you want food for comforting reasons.

Don't give up or give in...you keep on fighting. Remember, there are people here who care, and will help you as much as possible. Stay strong!

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Congratulations on your weight loss. Eighty pounds in less than 3 months.

At this stage your meal volume should have increased to the point that you can derive much of your Protein requirement from your meals. (That is if you have been concentrating on Protein first in your meals.) This should allow you to reduce your reliance on protein supplements (Protein shakes, protein bars) and the extra calories they contain. This should help you continue with your weight loss.

After a few more months you will go from a "Weight Loss" phase into a "Maintenance" phase. This requires a different strategy. I am 28 months post-op RNY. I discussed this in a short article titled How I Survived Bariatric Surgery, Part II which is available at http://www.breadandbutterscience.com/Surgery2.pdf

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You can do this! Keep fighting!

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