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Wow! Thanks so much everyone for your feedback!! You guys are awesome! The reason why I don't want to tell everybody is because I do work with some judgey people and I don't want to hear their opinions. It's my life and I know what's best for me. I'm not ashamed of my decision. It took me awhile to feel this way and I don't need any negativity in my life! I know exactly what I'm going to say! Thanks all!

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After my surgery I told none of my friends or colleagues outside or inside of work. But when asked I explained that my body rejected Gluten (bread) and I stopped drinking carbonation because my body bloated. It was just time for a life change.

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Unlike you, I have been telling everyone. I know that haters are gonna hate and people will judge me, but I finally decided to just say "screw it." I have nothing to be ashamed of, and I am at the point where I really don't give a rat's ass what people think of me. Besides, I look at it this way, the more people hear about this wonderful technology we have, the less taboo it will become. I recently had a co-worker ask me all kinds of questions and said she has considered it because she suffers with her weight and is a diabetic. I told her to just do a lot of research and be prepared for a lifestyle change. WLS isn't for everyone, but if you go into it with an open mind and are willing to make sacrifices and change a few things, it's well worth it. Her response was "Well I'll just sit back and see how you do with it first. " LOL! People are funny. WLS is a very personal thing, but it's also very liberating to tell people. Just saying.

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It is a good idea to tell some that you've had it done just in case something were to happen. Early on I had crazy dumping syndrome so I would. Violently throw up or dry heave. Once someone who didn't know what was going on actually called a squad that I didn't need and cost 800.00

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I told my boss, HR, my suite mate and two other people at work prior to surgery. All were extremely supportive and many hugged me when I returned. Now that I've lost 60#, my WL is really starting to show. If people ask, I tell them. Everyone so far has been amazingly supportive. Now in-laws, that's another story. But they've been pills to me and hubby for a long time (jealous of us) so I wouldn't expect a lot of support from them.

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I waited till the very last minute before I told my employers and employees and my boss was the only one that knew I didn't tell anybody till I got back it's not their business

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I work in a group home its very intimate, so everybody knows everybody's business, they were very supported at first. Ever since i got my surgery date the rude comments have started.. i wish i never told them.

I never knew how much they doubted my ability to succeed.

Edited by ChunkyChocolate

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I have told one person because he asked he over for a home cooked dinner. However, I moved and took a new job so people here didn't know me before. I decided if it was necessary I would tell.

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I had a harder time explaining it to my new family. My mother in law still doesn't understand why I don't eat deserts or pretty much anything at her house because I know it will make me sick.

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​Well I seem to be the outlier here, but I told / tell everyone. And I have been very blessed to receive nothing but support. I have lived trapped in a lie about food my whole life and I see no reason to continue that. There is someone else who I KNOW had sleeve and has "magically" lost 100 pounds due to "better eating and exercise". No one buys that! Folks are talking about her behind her back WAY more than they are me. Mostly I have gotten an 'atta girl for taking an aggressive albeit drastic measure to change my health. Not embarrassed at all to talk about it. Hopefully I will turn out to be a success story long term and if not, then they can talk. Meanwhile, I don't really care what they think. It certainly cannot be worse than what they thought about my gigantic a$$ 75 pounds ago!

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I guess I wonder why so many of you don't want people to know you had surgery. It is NOT the easy way out at all but I hear a lot of people don't talk about it. I never cared who knew about me but I am interested in your thoughts

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(any morbidly obese person would never buy that, but normal-weight people do)

HAHAHA I laughed so hard the second I read this! It's so true! Us obese people ask "what did you REALLY do?" ????

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