gowalking 10,790 Posted October 11, 2016 Well, no surprise. Mr. Wonderful pulled a stunt, refused to sign, made a new list of demands, and there is no agreement as we go into court tomorrow morning. It's in the judge's hands now. I'm amazingly calm. Did all the preparation I could. Thank you all for your support. I'll carry it with me tomorrow. JustWatchMe A friend of mine who is a college professor and a licensed therapist once told me that the opposite of love is not hate but indifference. It's fairly obvious that he still has some emotional investment in this relationship albeit not a loving one. Sounds to me though, that you have come out of this as indifferent. Meaning you are calm as you say and did all you could. It is what it is...let the judge decide and let this be over with and done. You are amazingly strong and I am beyond impressed that you've done what needed to be done and are moving on with your life. I can't compare as my divorce from husband #2 was amicable, but the sh*tshow that lead up to it was emotionally, financially, and physically draining. It was also freeing and it will be for you too. Wishing you all the best in this horror show you've been going through. Liz Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JustWatchMe 7,117 Posted October 11, 2016 Thanks, Liz. ❤️ JustWatchMe Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sharpie 3,306 Posted October 11, 2016 OMG , I am so sorry. hope you have a good judge who will see Mr. Wonderful for who and what he is. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Julie norton 2,850 Posted October 12, 2016 We are all standing silently behind you as you calmly and maturely proceed through HIS issues. On the bright side, so glad you are away from such a manipulating man...soon I hope this is in your rear view mirror . There is a lot ahead . Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JustWatchMe 7,117 Posted October 12, 2016 The WOO HOO heard round the world!!! It's done. I'm an ex!! I spent four hours in a conference room before the trial negotiating with, for lack of a better word, the terrorist. We settled at 3pm and signed at 3:30pm. We avoided trial. The judge accepted our settlement and declared us divorced. I fought for, and got, all of the provisions I wanted in the agreement, including taxes, tuition, insurance for the girls, and more. He didn't wear me down and I didn't give in on points my lawyer thought were tradable but I did not. I have not felt this powerful in years. My new life has truly begun. Thank you all for your support. I felt you with me today. JustWatchMe Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sharpie 3,306 Posted October 12, 2016 so happy for you. Also so very proud of you for staying strong. it's very difficult no matter what the circumstances to get divorced . You now can concentrate on your future. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lisacaron 5,075 Posted October 13, 2016 @@JustWatchMe You are FREE!!!!! What great news! You have been through the ringer for sure! You did great! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gowalking 10,790 Posted October 14, 2016 I for one am soooo excited for you to start your new life. I expect it will be wonderful!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Julie norton 2,850 Posted October 23, 2016 I am just publicly declaring to you guys that I will NOT buy Halloween candy until the actual day; I shall buy what I DONT like, and I shall get rid of it shortly thereafter. BOO... not. Boo hoo.. just my coping strategy after many years of trial and error. Good luck to us all ![emoji260][emoji316][emoji316] Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JustWatchMe 7,117 Posted October 24, 2016 Omg omg omg I just put an offer on a house. I'm so scared and excited!!! JustWatchMe Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lisacaron 5,075 Posted October 24, 2016 @@JustWatchMe so exciting! Good luck! @@Julie norton right there with you. I am one of those mean house that give out candy from the big bag of junk food that's all sugar and suckers and nothing I want to eat. I put it all in a big cauldron and leave it out front for the kids to take. Most of the time it's still pretty full by the end of the day, and I bag it up and send it out to the troops. After all my health issues over the last 6 months. I am going for a barium swallow tomorrow and hopefully will get a small fill in my band and see if we can start this thing again. I haven't been "sick" for over a month now so I think I'm in the clear. Need to start setting goals and focusing on my health...spend so much time taking care of everyone and everything else I have lost sight of me. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JustWatchMe 7,117 Posted October 25, 2016 I got the house! I move in three weeks! My head is spinning. JustWatchMe Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bandista 7,466 Posted October 25, 2016 Wow, am I ever glad I dropped by today -- what a boatload of great news! So happy for you @@JustWatchMe -- yippee! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Julie norton 2,850 Posted October 25, 2016 JWM. What a life changing decision! Congratulations on moving forward. Hope it is all you want it to be. It is lots of fun thinking about furniture placement, Wall color etc. it is NOT food focused , which helps in the big picture of maintenance ... (However moving can be a big pain in the as*) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JustWatchMe 7,117 Posted October 26, 2016 After more than two years of my life being on hold, financially being held hostage, it is incredible how life has changed in only two weeks. Before, things moved too slowly. Now, things are moving incredibly fast! But it's all good. It feels good to feel good again. JustWatchMe Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
