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Anyone start worrying as you're headed into the final stretch before surgery, whether or not you have the right surgeon and office? There are only two where I live and I've heard horrible things about the other one, but after my pre-op appointment, I'm beginning to worry that the one I chose might not be right for me. It's little things like not seeing the surgeon again for a whole year after surgery ( see the NUT and nurse practitioner every three months), meeting the NP and finding her a bit terse, going into surgery feeling like I don't have my after care questions answered. (I know they'll tell me in the hospital - I hope- but how together am I going to be at that time?!). Love, love, loved my SUR at first, but am feeling like just a number now. Don't know how much is my anxiety and insecurity or how much is because I really need to rethink this.

So excited about all the changes post surgery and simultaneously so worried about them. Anyone else feel totally double minded right before their surgery? ( I have 3 weeks Til bypass. )

Know the emotional roller coaster is somewhat normal but I'm not enjoying the ride! The highs are great, but oh those dips and twists and turns.

Choosinghope as I quake in my metaphorical boots.

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I can understand. Here is what you do...write a list of all of the questions that you have for your surgeon and request an appointment to speak with him about having specific questions that you want to talk to him about. I would want to know those were answered before hand and NOT on the day of surgery. There is way too much going on and people to talk to, too much to remember on a day that is stressful and causing more anxiety. If you do a Q&A session with him, it will help alleviate fears and reduce anxiety. I am excited for you and I am sure it will go smoothly. Those anesthesiologists are good bartenders!!! ;)

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Hmm, your reservations seem warranted. I'm in a position where I see the surgeon every appointment, as well as the nut and the surgeon's wife (his 1st assistant in surgery).

Though I'll say, I wouldn't be put off if I didn't see the surgeon each appointment... I'd be fine with just the other two. Maybe because it's a husband/wife scenario and I know she'll keep him informed. But I know a surgeons job is to cut; after my thyroid surgery I didn't keep seeing the surgeon, I went back to treating with the endocrinologist. Bariatrics is slightly different, the surgeon takes on two roles, but if there is a nurse practitioner on staff I can see not having to see the surgeon. Seems like you're not fond off the nurse practitioner, but maybe you need someone who will keep you on your toes. Since it doesn't sound like you have many options, list out your questions and get an appointment to make sure they get answered, they should all be qualified to answer your questions.

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