Stupid things people say when they find out you've had surgery....

[Steph~L~16 168]

"It's so permanent!" .... Ummmm yep.

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[Shawn722 17]

I was talking to a former co-worker and we were catching up she asked about a person we both know who lost a lot of weight, she said did she have that operation or diet and exercise. Wow! really, everything I know says if you have surgery you also have to diet and exercise. But I know people don't know so I took it as a teachable momement.

[jobeeone70 1]

Well I almost lost it but I thought why bother wasting my breath people will say or think what they want she was giving me a flu shot and lifted my sleeve to access my and said oh that's disgusting about the "wings" on my arms coming from an overweight person herself no less she has been extremely negative about me having this surgery ever since each time I've been there she makes snide remarks and tells me it was the worst decision I ever made etc... Let's see I'm down 200 lbs off some meds it sure wasn't better when I was over 400 lbs call me crazy I think this was a great decision !

Sounds like jealousy to me

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[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

I had a physical with my primary for the first time since surgery. She was super impressed with my weightloss. The two things that made me want to strangle her:

1. "You must be so happy to not have to shop in special fat people stores now, that had to be so embarrassing"

2. Your boyfriend must be so happy you're getting skinny

Wanted to slap the woman.

You SERIOUSLY, SERIOUSLY, SERIOUSLY need to find a new primary physician.

Her comments reflect the incredible depth of her prejudice against obese persons and her lack of understanding about the disease of obesity in general.

Appalling!

[4MRB4PHOTO 3,900]

I had a physical with my primary for the first time since surgery. She was super impressed with my weightloss. The two things that made me want to strangle her:

1. "You must be so happy to not have to shop in special fat people stores now, that had to be so embarrassing"

2. Your boyfriend must be so happy you're getting skinny

Wanted to slap the woman.

You SERIOUSLY, SERIOUSLY, SERIOUSLY need to find a new primary physician.

Her comments reflect the incredible depth of her prejudice against obese persons and her lack of understanding about the disease of obesity in general.

Appalling!

I guess the "MD" after her PCP's name stands for "Major Douchebag".

[berkeleyandbrownie 20]

I don't tell everyone about my surgery, but I get those stupid comments from people all the time when they do know.

I have always said that this is a matter between my physician and me. I have a very supportive PCP who calls me his "rock-star weight loss patient."

Now that I'm 22 months post-op, I get comments about being too skinny or asking when I'll stop. The food police are also out in force now. So, you aren't going to comment on the pile of fat and carbs that our 250 lb coworker is eating, but you're going to make a snarky comment about what I ate or how little you think I ate? Blows my mind.

Unless I go out for lunch, I usually eat in my office at my desk so I don't have to listen to the crap.

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[Christinamo7 4,042]

Why do you guys (and gals) listen to people who have 1) no experience with or 2) no knowledge of weight loss surgery other than what their fearful minds tell them? You know they are speaking from ignorance and the fear of the unknown. Their opinions have no worth and should be disregarded as the meaningless drivel it is.

I hope I am not coming across as being mean or anything like that but I see so many here who are listening too much to the opinions of those who don't know rather than listening to those that do. Their opinions in this case are meaningless!

YOU know the reasons for having the surgery and the results. You know what science and qualified expert information shows and that is all that matters.

There are a lot of people out there, some who care and some who don't, who will speak their minds either out of baseless fear or simple transference of their own emotional problems.

The facts are clear. The benefits of having the surgery, considering the risks, FAR outweigh benefits of not having it. The risks of not having the surgery are significant as we all know. Diabetes, heart disease, greatly reduced enjoyment of life and all it has to offer.

Anyway apologies for the rant. I just think everyone should listen to truth not fiction and know you did the right thing and YOUR life (and those closest to you) will be better because of it. That is the only thing that matters.

Oh, just because I don't let the comments bother me at all doesn't mean that idiotic comments are not made. I find them to be quite amusing, which I think is the general purpose of this post. I get told a lot that I am not heavy enough, or I should just eliminate sugar and gluten. oh yes, silly me, I should have tried that, in a very sarcastic voice is what I say in my mind. :-)

"It's so permanent!" .... Ummmm yep.

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lol. YES, that's the point. ha.

[Christinamo7 4,042]

I was discussing this journey of mine with my husband and he said a stupid thing tonight

"Why don't you just eat an apple a day for a month and you'll lose weight" ......that's how ridiculous people are sometimes.

but you know what is EVEN MORE ridiculous? if my husband ate an apple a day for a month he would probably loose 10 pounds. That man only has to think about loosing weight and it is off. GRRRRRRRRRRR :-) although, he has other struggles of his own, weight is my monster and he has been very supportive of my surgery and is only happy to have a healthier wife. he did not want to loose me young.

[1derfullymade 4]

I am only 6 days post op. Can someone tell me why I feel hungry? I am sipping and haven't cheated but all I can think about is food. I'm hoping when I get back to work and out of this house that will help. With the pre op diet and now surgery I'm down from 238 to 221! but I am worried. Is this normal??

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[Nicki24 34]

Here's some of the dumb questions you get pre-op...

- now, you do know that this is not a magic procedure, it's just a tool, and it will require a lifestyle change (duh, cutting 80% of my stomach is a major freaking change ????)

- what made you choose the sleeve? Someone I know that had it gained all their weight back. You should do the bypass (as if it's impossible to gain weight back with the bypass ????)

- I would only do this if it were my last resort (being fat your whole life and wanting to experience a normal life with no health issues before it's almost over, in my opinion, is the last resort)

People are so judgmental of things that are unfamiliar to them. When I talk to people who are well informed about the surgery, they usually congratulate me for the decision and tell me I will have no regrets as long as I follow my doctors orders/diet.

If I hear that it's not a magic fix just a tool crap one more time I might snap obviously I know that!!!!

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[katanne 215]

"Why would you do that? Your problem is that you eat too much. You just need to stop eating."

"We don't want to lose you. Those operations are really dangerous. Are you really willing to risk your life for vanity?"

I probably don't have to explain what's wrong with those...

[taramarie523 116]

This is exactly why I'm not saying a word to anyone

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[BCs 1000 364]

This is exactly why I'm not saying a word to anyone

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Yes, this thread is terrifying. I have only told mum and my husband, mum was very encouraging and my husband never questions any decisions I make about myself. Different strokes and all that, but if you are yet to have your surgery, think very hard about who you will tell.

[LaDivaDev 129]

"Well I'm hoping you've done all your research because this is seriously extreme." -Naw, actually, I just decided to do this today. [emoji849]

[LaDivaDev 129]

And another..."I support you and all, but ideally, I'd hope you'd lose weight the natural way." -Yeah? Well I'm not exempt from having to maintain a certain lifestyle you know! After all, this state I'm in is anything BUT natural!!!