ngon251978 3 Posted August 28, 2015 Greetings! After receiving a lap-band a little more than 2 years ago, I have lost about 120 lbs. but, unfortunately, the weight loss is starting to put a strain on my relationship. Specifically, my husband of more almost 11 years thinks I am too skinny (going from 357 - 240 lbs. at 6’ 2”). When we met, I was 300 lbs. I ballooned up to 357, of course had health issues due to weight, got the lap-band, and successfully lost weight and am now down to a healthy weight. However, my husband no longer finds me physically attractive though he still loves me. I certainly still love him and we continue to enjoy each other’s company but we rarely have sex (maybe once a quarter if I'm lucky). He wants me to gain back up to 300 lbs. I try to put myself in his shoes and think would I act the same way if he gained 120 lbs. (going tom 170 - 290 lbs.). I think I would still find him hot but it’s a hypothetical situation. Has anyone else been in this situation before and, if so, what did you do? How did you work out your problems and come to a solution that worked for both of you. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gowalking 10,790 Posted September 1, 2015 I am so sorry to hear that your husband is having issues with your weight loss. I can't offer you any insight as I've not had this situation myself, but I would say that you need to decide if his request for you to gain the weight back is a deal breaker for the two of you. Unfortunately, you're in a lose-lose situation..and that I have been in before. I know I went with my gut feelings and more than 20 years later, I've rarely regretted my decision. Good luck to you and wishing you all the best. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
