Feeling Like a Failure

[NYCVSGGirl87 24]

Hey everyone,

Just wanted to post about how I have been feeling lately. I have been sleeved for over a year (my surgery was June 2014). I am 5'3" and my surgery weight was 262. My current weight is 203 lbs. My lowest weight post surgery was 187 lbs. As you can see, I've gain weight since my surgery and I am starting to feel like a failure. I feel like I should weight much less than I do right now. Does anyone have any advice on how to lose more weight. How have you been successful? Should I be doing something differently? Thanks in advance.

[Jessee3897 114]

Oh no, I can imagine how disheartening it is to see the pounds slowly creep back up. Have you talked with your nutritionist? Maybe they can offer some specifics that will help for your personal journey. Also, have you made a (not so good) modification to your diet? Im not set for surgery for another month but am currently 285 and 5'2. Stay with onderland! It's no fun on this side!!

By the way you are totally NOT a failure.

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

If you aren't happy with your progress then yes, you could do something different. But, different from what? You didn't put any details about what you are doing in your post.

Are you reaching your Protein goal every day?

Are you getting in at least 64 oz of Fluid?

Are you tracking your food?

Are you avoiding starches?

Are you exercising?

If you feel like you aren't making the progress you expect, it might be time to go back to basics.

Best of luck.

[jane13 2,256]

@@NYCVSGGirl87 I totally agree with @@Inner Surfer Girl - get back to BASICS!

[LadyK44 263]

Stop feeling like a failure and take control. You are the only person that can stop what goes into your mouth and the only one that can make you body move! Brush yourself off and get over the "why me!" Start over you still have your sleeve and you've done good so far. Get back to the basics! You can do it!

[mmwishart 41]

No carbs from flour or sugar, limit starch veggies. No junk food.

Eat Low fat dairy and lean Protein. Lots of veggies. A little fruit. A small amount of fats from vegetable sources. Measure your food.

Exercise.

[wantingabetterlife 364]

What they said! And track everything you put in your mouth. Accountability is key to getting it under control and getting back on track. You can do it, just go back to the basics.

[CocoBelle 13]

I am actually interested to hear your response. I am currently pre-op but I read every day about someone who gains weight. Or stops losing weight. I am wondering if the other factors that other people mention are there and you are still gaining. Like are you actively trying to lose weight? I am not trying to be offensive and apologize if I come off like a smart ass. I am genuinely curious because I'm sure one day, I could be in your shoes. I know one day I'm gonna have to hit it hard I just want to know its gonna work.

[CocoBelle 13]

Btw, you would only fail if you gave up. You will be alright! I wish you the best.

[krista132 213]

Don't let yourself feel like a failure. Where you are at is still much different than where you started. Its hard sometimes to always remain positive, but just do it! Look back at pictures of the former you. Realize how far you have come. You can always get back on track like the others said above. But, don't let yourself feel like a failure!