OKCPirate 5,323 Posted August 31, 2015 @@CowgirlJane - The connection was instant, and yes it's still in that fun honeymoon phase, but I'm digging it. Someone said go into a relationship with your eyes wide open, and after commitment, keep your eyes half shut. It's a long ball game...but a very fun one. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bellabloom 2,467 Posted October 22, 2015 I'm with you cowgirl Jane. I'm feeling much the same way. The thrill of wining and dining has worn off and I'm simply burning out on the process. It's so stressful to spend time talking with someone I don't know, deciding what to share and what not to share. Especially if there is no chemistry. I'm not going to open up about myself deeply anyway and it's just brutal to make my way through all these dates with men I don't like. Even when I do meet someone I may like, it's not going well. I am running into the sexual seekers quite often which I find annoying and depressing. I'm not going to jump into bed with anyone right away and it's tiring to see these men try that with me. I feel depressed thinking of their lack of patience and desire for real intimacy. It bugs me a ton when they begin texting me sexually before I've even had a chance to meet them. I've run into a ton of men who are online dating because they don't have any time in their life, they are wrapped up in work or kids and it's like going to target- everything you need with minimal effort. They say they want to date but clearly they have no desire to make time for a relationship so I'm just guessing this is the lazy way of doing it for them. I'm getting really jaded and burnt out and I'm having a hard time getting excited even when I do meet someone I like. I've had several dates go to hell on the second date and that's even more frustrating and awkward. I've most definitely run into men who are interested mainly in my looks and that feels just weird considering my history and they seem super shallow. I'm running into a lot of guys who's really goal is to date a very thin woman and that's just crazy to me. A lot of guys fixated on weight. Anyway I'm taking a break for awhile too. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites