Feeling left out

[charlenemb 5]

I have a friend at work who know all about my surgery. We made a pact that she will share with me when we go out so I don't have to order a full meal and she doesn't eat so much, win win.

[tjstark 74]

Dr. Beck refers to it as strengthening your resistance muscle and weakening your giving in muscle. I learned early on that I can not expect others to change what they normally do regarding food when I'm around. I was the one who decided have surgery and lose weight. Therefore, it is I that must learn the skills and strategies of resisting any tempting food that isn't on my food plan.

I agree with you a lot here! I knew pre-surgery that I couldn't expect my family to give up their foods or be considerate to me when they're just going about their daily lives, which unfortunately for me, do include foods I see as a trigger. I knew I didn't have a choice, I would have to be around them eating these foods because I live with them, so it really is a test of resistance! For me personally, I don't expect anything from people including my family and just make things work for me.

I have had, however, some inconsiderate instances of family members waving their food that is a trigger for me in my face and taunting me, 'Do you miss it?' That I think is horrible. Just going about their daily lives, I just have to adapt my own thinking and be resistant.

[naturegirl 320]

Been there. Right after surgery I chose to skip my boss's going away/promotion luncheon because I couldn't eat anything in the menu where they went. The following week I skipped a staff lunch for the same reason.