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Hello everyone I am new here! I have been lurking in the shadows for a while but this is the first time I have posted here.

I am scheduled for my Sleeve on Thursday and I am starting to have a lot of anxiety about it. I am self pay so first and foremost it's $17k right out of my pocket (although my husband keeps insisting that it's going to a good cause and he wants me to be happy again) I'm the saver he's the spender and I just keep thinking over and over that I am jumping in too fast.

I have been going through the process for a year now. I have had all 6 nutrition appointments, 2 psychologist appointments and have seen my surgeon several times. I am fully prepared and know what to expect. My house if filled with juices, broths, Water, etc.. in preparation for me to not eat for a few weeks.

So why am I freaking out? Is this normal? Did anyone else feel this way?

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It is completely normal!! You should be anxious before any life-changing decision! A month from now it will just be a distant memory and you will be on your journey to a new life!

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It's virtually impossible not to feel that way. Bariatric surgery is not just a major procedure...it is an epic transformation, and the end of life as we have previously known it. But once you are on the other side, it is an amazing feeling, even with the various sources of early discomfort present.

My best advice would be to start living your life as though you have already had it. That will give you an advancement on the euphoria that comes with completing the surgery, and you can start to realize early benefits of the surgery that come before even having the procedure. If you do all of that, then the only thing different once you finally reach the other side will be the smaller stomach. We need to stop viewing everything associated with this procedure as a restriction or a taboo. It is better to look at both the endeavor at large and all its individual parts as elements of freedom and opportunity that we earned. And yes, we earned it by making this decision. We didn't necessitate it with our obesity, as we are among fewer than 1% of obese people that ever decide to have it in the first place. Congratulations and good luck!

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If someone offered u 10 more years at a cost of 17,000 i bet u would take it. Not only will you probably live longer, but all your years will be better. I know it is alot of money, but is not a fancy car it is a healther u. Wish u the best.

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If someone offered u 10 more years at a cost of 17,000 i bet u would take it. Not only will you probably live longer, but all your years will be better. I know it is alot of money, but is not a fancy car it is a healther u. Wish u the best.

Wow I am self pay and struggled with spending that much on myself but never thought about it like that. Very good point and VERY eye opening.

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I agree with the previous post! I am self-pay also and I just keep telling people that ask why, "I'm doing it to save my life!" And isn't that worth any amount??

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