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I'm getting sleeved a week from tomorrow (the 24th) and I told my parents and asked them to please not tell anyone. I found out today that my father has told at least one of our family friends. He of course told his wife. I'm sure that it has already spread throughout the town and I'm PISSED!! My trust in thst man is completely broken and gone! The Portuguese community is for the most part close minded and don't believe in a lot of things. I'm sure I'm going to get people saying that I took the easy way out and that of course I'm losing weight and all this ****. I'm so mad I never want to tell that man anything personal ever again! ????????????????

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So sorry to hear your Dad violated your trust. At this point hold your head high and move on. It doesn't matter in the end what others say because you are ding this for you and not them. Just focus on what is important and move forward.

I agree, I would probably not share anything personal with him again as he has shown he cannot be trusted. Good luck with your surgery!

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I agree.... Hold your head high. This process is far from easy.

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My dad is a BIG blabbermouth too. He couldn't wait to start telling people about my surgery, even though I specifically asked him to keep it private. If I hadn't had to tell him, I never would have.

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I actually didn't want to tell my dad either. And if I didn't still live with him I wouldn't have! I agree I have to hold my head high it's just frustrating. This is MY journey not his! How dare he tell other people when I specifically asked him not to! This is something that is so personal and he's just been a big problem from the very beginning with it.

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I'm sorry to hear that as one should always be able to trust their parents with something like this. However, it is out in the open now. Expect people to judge you because the reality is that they will. It is up to you whether or not you choose to care.

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