Shot down by my "best" friend

[downsizingdiva 459]

GRRRRRR......THATS WHY I TOLD NOONE - I DIDN'T WANT ANYONE'S COMMENTS OUR THOUGHTS BRINGING ME DOWN. I CANNOT TELL YOU HOW ABSOLUTELY GRATEFUL TO MYSELF THAT I AM FOR KEEPING MY SURGERY A SECRET.

[lachellove 486]

I took it as she was joking .. And I think it's awesome she offered to help.

[suitechicguy 105]

I can understand you feeling how you do about the way she handled it but I believe she didn't mean harm by it. As I went through this I kind of started figuring out who saw me as fat and who saw me as me by who commented and how they commented on my weight loss. It's one of those things you end up getting used to.

[red37 116]

She may have felt awkward in not knowing the appropriate reaction to your news. I would not take it personally. Judging by her email she did try to make up for it, so she must care about you, sometimes we need to "teach" people what we want or need from them especially when it comes to something they don't understand. Give her time.

[snowkitten 371]

So sorry you didn't get the reaction you wanted from your bf. I had lost 110lbs before anyone noticed my weight loss. Just last week I had 5 people ask me if I lost weight. Not one before that. Sometimes people are clueless.

Don't let her reaction discourage you. 40lbs is amazing! Congrats

[LipstickLady 25,682]

I lost 75 pounds before people started noticing. I'm 5 freaking 2. You're being sensitive. I was, too, so I get it.