downsizingdiva 459 Posted August 20, 2015 GRRRRRR......THATS WHY I TOLD NOONE - I DIDN'T WANT ANYONE'S COMMENTS OUR THOUGHTS BRINGING ME DOWN. I CANNOT TELL YOU HOW ABSOLUTELY GRATEFUL TO MYSELF THAT I AM FOR KEEPING MY SURGERY A SECRET. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lachellove 486 Posted August 20, 2015 I took it as she was joking .. And I think it's awesome she offered to help. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
suitechicguy 105 Posted August 21, 2015 I can understand you feeling how you do about the way she handled it but I believe she didn't mean harm by it. As I went through this I kind of started figuring out who saw me as fat and who saw me as me by who commented and how they commented on my weight loss. It's one of those things you end up getting used to. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
red37 116 Posted August 21, 2015 She may have felt awkward in not knowing the appropriate reaction to your news. I would not take it personally. Judging by her email she did try to make up for it, so she must care about you, sometimes we need to "teach" people what we want or need from them especially when it comes to something they don't understand. Give her time. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
snowkitten 371 Posted August 27, 2015 So sorry you didn't get the reaction you wanted from your bf. I had lost 110lbs before anyone noticed my weight loss. Just last week I had 5 people ask me if I lost weight. Not one before that. Sometimes people are clueless. Don't let her reaction discourage you. 40lbs is amazing! Congrats Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LipstickLady 25,682 Posted August 27, 2015 I lost 75 pounds before people started noticing. I'm 5 freaking 2. You're being sensitive. I was, too, so I get it. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
