So tired of people saying you dont need surgery!

[Shellbell619 35]

I have had so many people that say you dont need surgery. Or even people that say you're taking the easy way out. UMMM by reading what I have read so far about this surgery...it is not the easy way out! I wish people realized what all I will have to go thru. And I absolutely need this surgery, if not for my health, for my sanity. I cannot stand the person I have become. Cant find anything to wear, my closet full of cute clothes dont fit, I have gained 50 lbs in 10 months, cant bend down to shave my legs for crying out loud, dont want to have sex with hubby of 20 years, I cut my hair off because I am too lazy to fix it, out of breath, dont want to go to parties or summer events involving bathing suit.....the NEED for surgery is crutial to my mental well being. I feel so excited about my surgery and I want to shout it to the roof tops. Then when I do I get this reaction. What a bummer! People are so mean some times.

[KerryRNY04162015 30]

I have had so many people that say you dont need surgery. Or even people that say you're taking the easy way out. UMMM by reading what I have read so far about this surgery...it is not the easy way out! I wish people realized what all I will have to go thru. And I absolutely need this surgery, if not for my health, for my sanity. I cannot stand the person I have become. Cant find anything to wear, my closet full of cute clothes dont fit, I have gained 50 lbs in 10 months, cant bend down to shave my legs for crying out loud, dont want to have sex with hubby of 20 years, I cut my hair off because I am too lazy to fix it, out of breath, dont want to go to parties or summer events involving bathing suit.....the NEED for surgery is crutial to my mental well being. I feel so excited about my surgery and I want to shout it to the roof tops. Then when I do I get this reaction. What a bummer! People are so mean some times.

This surgery isn't the easy way out. It's tough. Screw the nay Sayers. Get happy

[wantingabetterlife 364]

Far from the easy way out. We all know the truth! This is YOUR life and YOUR body, who gives a crap what "they" say. If you want it, then be happy and we will support you! Best of luck!

[Shellbell619 35]

Thank you for the support! I know its my body and my life. I shouldn't let other people hurt my feelings. I just wish they did a little thinking before they commented! Congrats on meeitng your goal @@wantingabetterlife

Edited August 11, 2015 by Shellbell619

[glitterpockets 85]

I know how you feel which is why I've only told 3 people. Today when I went for my EKG the nurse asked if I've had this done before. I said no ma'am. She then asked if this was for some kind of pre op. I said yes ma'am for Dr asad. She then asked what surgery and there it was, "well youre not gonna do THAT are you?!? You're no bigger than me!" so the whole time she was asking me questions and giving me the stink eye and attitude. Lets just say I stopped calling her ma'am after five minutes of being there ????

[beingfree 30]

if i had a dollar for everytime i heard that I'd be super rich!! Lol.

my thought is that they know we will actually lose weight and become healthier and it will kill them inside. Lol.

No worries! Go girl you got this!! ????????

[Elode 8,093]

@@Shellbell619 I'm beginning to think it's just something people say like when your pregnant and the first thing people ask is "is it your first"? I heard that so many times about Not needing surgery it was ridiculous. I was 267lbs at what point do I need surgery then? Once I'm dead? Yep she should have had surgery. Lol! Just say thanks and move it along....unfortunately for them you get to decide that.

[wantingabetterlife 364]

Thank you for the support! I know its my body and my life. I shouldn't let other people hurt my feelings. I just wish they did a little thinking before they commented! Congrats on meeitng your goal @@wantingabetterlife

Thank you so much! And just so you know, the same people that said I shouldn't have surgery, are the ones that keep telling me that I need to stop losing weight! I just say uh-huh and keep on doing what I want!

[twinhappy 79]

I purposely didn't tell many people about my surgery because I am a sassy girl and I know I'd get into some fights with people who tried to say it's the easy way out! My sleeve was far from easy! The good thing is that the weight has come off at a relatively normal pace (about 2lbs a week or around 10 lbs a month on average) so people just think it is my new food choices and exercise. While my weight loss is from that it is also from the fact that my stomach is tiny and my cravings have been majorly curbed with the surgery. It has really just been an aid for me - not the sole reason I lost weight. Good Luck!

[Mistie 201]

I know how you feel which is why I've only told 3 people. Today when I went for my EKG the nurse asked if I've had this done before. I said no ma'am. She then asked if this was for some kind of pre op. I said yes ma'am for Dr asad. She then asked what surgery and there it was, "well youre not gonna do THAT are you?!? You're no bigger than me!" so the whole time she was asking me questions and giving me the stink eye and attitude. Lets just say I stopped calling her ma'am after five minutes of being there ????

And see, I would have wanted to say, "I know we are about the same size! Have you considered weight loss surgery?" Lol

[Shellbell619 35]

@@beingfree .....aren't you right out of surgery....like you had it yesterday? Or was that someone else i am confusing you with?

[Shellbell619 35]

@@Elode

Those comments "Is this your first?" Or can I touch your belly Or how bout the infamous "Are you pregnant?" So you mean to tell me I will be hearing all of this craziness for months to come, even after surgery! Lordybee!

[nursey 46 38]

Several people have said the same thing...."you don't need the surgery" yes I do! I weight 240 lbs and I'm 5'4 I am morbidly obese. I've decided not to be so forthcoming with people, to much negativity.

Edited August 11, 2015 by nursey 46

[glitterpockets 85]

@@Mistie lol it crossed my mind.

[JamieLogical 8,708]

I know how you feel which is why I've only told 3 people. Today when I went for my EKG the nurse asked if I've had this done before. I said no ma'am. She then asked if this was for some kind of pre op. I said yes ma'am for Dr asad. She then asked what surgery and there it was, "well youre not gonna do THAT are you?!? You're no bigger than me!" so the whole time she was asking me questions and giving me the stink eye and attitude. Lets just say I stopped calling her ma'am after five minutes of being there

Stories like this make me so mad. These are supposed to be medical "professionals".... why aren't they conducting themselves in a professional manor? You should definitely report her.