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The end of a long-term relationship! Finding myself again!



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Hello,

I started a relationship with a guy back in 2004. We were young and in love!

Well the past three years took a nose dive we had a blissful seven years that I will eternally cherish. The last three years were a hazy mess. We both have Bipolar. His anxiety got so bad and so did his obsessing over the relationship and his different phobias took place. I haven't really seen him in the past three years, I tried to stick it out hoping he would get better. Then tonight it came down like a Hurricane! He told me if I left his life he could get better. As harsh as it was hearing it I realized I needed to walk away for good. So we split amicably!

I really feel alone I mean I have no friends, all I had was him. Sure I have my parents and my family. It's just not the same. I'm however embarking on this amazing journey of attending a weight loss seminar tomorrow and I see a bright future for myself!

I guess you can say this has been a blessing in disguise.

I'm finding myself again!

Lisa

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Lisa... so bitter sweet. I hope this journey is the start of a fantastic life for yourself !!

Good luck and warmest wishes in all things :D

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When a door closes, somewhere, a window opens. I'm betting this is the beginning of a wonderful new stage of your life. Welcome to the site!

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You will find lots of support here. Good luck on your journey!

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Thank you so much for the support!

Today marks a new day especially since I'm going to the bariatric free seminar. :)

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You can do it. I left my 23 year marriage last summer. I was alone long before that emotionally. We are reborn with WLS and I look forward to many good years ahead, alone or not.

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Good Luck Lisa, you are not alone. My bf ended our 4yr relationship. I was glad also it ended because it was becoming unhealthy.

I am going to get sleeve done this august. It will be a new beginning for us.

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My ex -wife of 21 years was bipolar (though in retrospect I think she was a borderline). So I feel your pain. Give yourself lots of time to heal. There are many trolls and lowlifes who seem to be able to sense when people are vulnerable after a break up. So protect yourself and heal. And I hope you will blessed by this board. Many supportive people from a large wide variety of backgrounds.

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