Feeling alone through this journey

[RollingRing 3]

So I've been through nearly a year of prep work and appointments and now am just waiting for insurance to approve me, then I can schedule surgery and am so excited! Unfortunately, I feel very alone in this journey with no one to talk to. I'm the type of person who loves to talk through things but don't have close friends. My mother thinks it's a big mistake and that I should be able to lose the 100+ lbs "on my own" (as if I hadn't been trying and failing at that for the last ten years!) and my husband all but said he thinks I won't be successful after surgery. I haven't told other family or coworkers because my weight is such a sensitive issue to me, and I'm so embarrassed at how heavy I've gotten. I'm excited, scared, and nervous. Guess I just wanted to put this out there to see how to get through this with me basically bring my own 'cheering section' through this journey.

[TXMissy 211]

I felt similarly, but the one thing I did was tell my coworkers. They have been real encouraging and supportive! The definitely my cheering section. My mom and my husband came around. You have us! I know you can do it!

[LessOfMe0503 157]

Died your surgeon or hospital have support group meetings? Maybe you could find face to face support there. And of course, you'll always find it here!

[BypassedLife 39]

Well I'm very excited for you! We can be buddies! My bypass should be scheduled within the next month or two so we can go through this together.

I'm lucky that most of my family has been supportive of my decision. But there will always be those that don't get it. When I tell people I always bring up how bypass has a great long-term success rate. Also, my surgeon goes out of his way to constantly say that severe obesity is a disease. And a disease that needs surgery to fix.

Please keep me posted on your progress. And I hope you don't mind, but I added you as a friend on here.

Gina

[RollingRing 3]

Thanks everyone! I feel better already. This board has already given me so much helpful information. And Gina1209, as soon as I figure out how to add you as a friend in here (still a rookie newbie!), it would be great to chat with someone who's going through the process about the same time!

[Big Opie 32]

I'm in the same boat as you. I've been doing this process for the last 7 going on 8 months. At first everybody was on board with my surgery and after like a few months they began to not respond or shrug it off. I do talk about it all the time and with anyone who will listen because I feel like if someone else is thinking about it I can be a support or resource for that person.

I know exactly how you feel as my surgery is pending insurance review since mine was originally denied to to lack of doctors information.

This site is a great source of support as well as another site I found thinnertimesforum.com I use both because there is a wide variety of people on each.

Good luck lady! May the odds be ever in your favor!

[choosehope 233]

((Rollingring)) count me as a part of your support group. We all need to band together! (Pun unintentional!) I feel very alone too sometimes even though I have two good friends who know I'm going to have it and are very supportive. I don't know that anyone who hasn't been there can know how demoralizing and how much effort it takes to just exist when you have over 100 pounds to lose! Or how simultaneously scary and exciting the prospect of turning your life inside out is! You are not alone!!