Unsupportive partners

[KnowUrWorth 17]

Hi just wondering if anyone has experienced their partners not being entirely supportive. I'm due to get my surgery in 4 weeks and my partner isn't being overly supportive. He says that once I loose all my weight I will leave him. We have two children together an have been together for over 3 years. I love him with my whole heart and wouldn't leave him but I have no idea how to prove that to him and can't help but feel that he is putting negative pressures on me!

[Elode 8,093]

@@KnowUrWorth I think that's a common fear, especially for men, my husband said that joking a few times or so he said he was. There's really no way to assure him if saying it isn't enough you will just have to prove it with time.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

@@KnowUrWorth

Your username says it all. You are worth this. He will either figure it out and hop on board or he won't. Either way, not your problem. Your quality of life and the life you can give your children is more important than anything.

[KnowUrWorth 17]

Thankyou ladies. Things are hectic enough with the surgery in 4 weeks and having a 2 month old and almost 2 year old to worrie about let alone these issues he is having. Just hoping it all works out in the end ????

[Gaelsmom 100]

I think it's a natural reaction, especially when you have insecurities. If both me and hubby were obese and he lost all the weight, I know for a fact that I would start thinking why would he want to stay with me? In fact, hubby lost nearly 100lbs as did I ( I put it all back on). And even though we have a solid relationship, my overeating, not being able to keep up with our son, or have the energy to be out and about, or feeling confident to get in the sack, has impacted my family. That was definitely the case after food coma. And even though my husband has never been anything but supportive and loving, I still feel insecure. There's nothing he can say or do to change that because it's on me. But now, oddly with the pre- op weight loss and upcoming surgery, I can tell he is going through his set of insecurities. The only advice I have is to enjoy your family and don't try to convince him. It will resolve over time.