ylluz 151 Posted August 6, 2015 My says she supports me but just told me today I dont need to do that surgery that I just have to stop being greedy like really???I have diabetes sleep apnea plus I had 2 corneal transplants which I need to worry about eye pressure and having rejection my whole life this is one reason I was refered to help wih diabetes, is just sad how people close to me see the struggle and all the health issues and how I try hars and go up and down in weight and still have negative comments!! I am doing this for a healthier me and with support or no support. I will get through all of this life change!!!..... I meant my mother.... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
katybelle7 65 Posted August 6, 2015 Perhaps your mother is worried about you and surgery. Perhaps she's concerned you'll change as a person after losing weight. Who knows? This is life altering, and you need to reassure her you'll still love her and need her after you follow through getting your life and health in order. I hope you have a friend or family member who is supportive so you won't feel alone in your journey. This might be an issue you'll want to tell your doctor or psychologist and get their professional opinion. Meanwhile, stick with it and good luck! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ylluz 151 Posted August 6, 2015 Thank you very much!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jane13 2,256 Posted August 6, 2015 @@ylluz - do the surgery for yourself and NO ONE else! its your life, your knees, your back, your diabetes.... NO Regrets! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
slvarltx 332 Posted August 6, 2015 I think there is a lot of misunderstanding about bariatric surgery in general. I found the idea of the sleeve to be very barbaric when I had my first consult. The permanence of it made it very scary for me as well. Maybe take your mom along for your next appointment? Best of luck to you. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ylluz 151 Posted August 6, 2015 @@jane13 -Thats what I said is for myself. Thank you ???? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ylluz 151 Posted August 6, 2015 @slvarltx- mom goes with me to all my pre-op and I talk to her and she knows many that had the sleeved I guess she is also nervous since the day is getting closer. Thank you for the support???? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TXTinana 269 Posted August 6, 2015 Maybe she is nervous, but greedy is a harsh word. I would have a deep conversation about why this is not about being greedy, but this is about utilizing what is available and becoming a healthier person and thus extending your life. I hope things get easier. I went through a similar situation with my husband for several months and within the last month he has become one of my biggest supporters, so there is hope **hugs** Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ylluz 151 Posted August 6, 2015 TXTinana Thank you so much hopefully she will change her mind once is done. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jane13 2,256 Posted August 7, 2015 @@ylluz - I almost did the lap-band for my adult daughter to eliminate her worries about forever changing my guts. I went with my "gut" and have the sleeve. WLS has to be all about your decision, your happiness, your life.... good luck! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ylluz 151 Posted August 7, 2015 Thank you and I am soooo ready Share this post Link to post Share on other sites