What's your "weight loss pet peeve?"

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

"Let's all learn to say no!"

Amen.

No to our old bad habits. No to well-meaning friends. No to people who are used to us saying yes in the past. No to assholes who want to control or sabotage us.

And as on other topics, no means no.

[Elode 8,093]

Just say no to trolls!!

[Hisbrowneyedgirl 175]

"Let's all learn to say no!"

Amen.

No to our old bad habits. No to well-meaning friends. No to people who are used to us saying yes in the past. No to assholes who want to control or sabotage us.

And as on other topics, no means no.

One of my co workers tried to feed me! I politely said no thank you, but he kept pushing his fork toward me. I changed the subject and moved further away. It seems so odd to make someone feel bad for having with friends, but not eating.

[Wendyfm 494]

My mother, whose always been pretty thin. She compliments me on my weight loss and then tells me about any weight she has lost and that she's fitting into a size eight. Now granted she's seventy four and it's good that she's an eight,but..

[SeahawksFan 444]

I have two that I don't think have been mentioned yet. When others try to pressure me into drinking alcohol. I am 9 months post op and could have a drink if I wanted to but honestly I don't really enjoy the taste of wine or beer and I am cheap. Which brings me to the next pet peeve of how much food I throw away because I can't eat it fast enough. This could range between veggies and fruit I didn't eat quick enough to left overs because left overs are usually at least 2/3 more meals. Just a few pet peeves Love the thread.

~LA

[Jennna 13]

I've lost 50lbs in 2.5 months. My biggest peeve is when people dont mention it or pretend they didnt notice it.

It's FIFTY effing pounds!! How the hell do you not notice that??

Also my "best friend" who hasnt said a good word about my weight loss at all, but will compliment other people for losing 3 lbs.

Really?

[Big_Mama 511]

@@Jennna I feel your pain. I have a co-worker who won't say a damn thing about 120 lbs I've lost so far. While everyone is complimenting me, she'll walk out the room or say "have you seen so&so, he's lost x lbs. by just changing his diet and exercising!" or "Is it really that noticeable?!" uhhhh yeah b!+€#!! I went from a 22+(started wearing only yoga pants after 22 didn't fit) to a friggin 12!! I'd say that's pretty significant!!! Some people are just jealous, hateful jerks!! You go girl!! Keep up the good work!!

[lclemur 161]

@@wantingabetterlife my brother says legally they have to give you Water, I don't know if that's true or not.

Boy! Not in California! You have to beg for a glass of water!

[caligul 102]

@iclemur...thats bc there haa been a drought since the 80s... lol

[WL WARRIOR 690]

I keep meeting people that are morbidly obese, yet say that they hardly eat anything everyday. What? It really comes down to an overabundance of daily calories and lack of exercise when you are more than 100 pounds overweight. It just seems that some have the hardest time admitting that they are an overeater. Even on this forum, I have read posts from others saying they never over ate and got very obese from psych meds and hypothyroidism alone. Sorry, no. Meds and thyroid problems will not cause more than a 10-25 pound weight gain.

Such denial will really get in the way of weight loss success after surgery.

[Julie norton 2,850]

Ok. Just a small pet peeve. And apologies to the newbies.

Sometimes I'm reading a thread with advice on diet and exercise and all good WLS guidelines.... Only to look up the poster and find that they are pre- op....I'm glad they have solid advice, but....

My hope is that people have some experience and a bit of WLS life under their belt before telling other post ops how to correct an issue they are having.

We are all here to help each other... But not by READING the info a Doc has given you....

This is a long term solution and I'm not closed minded to new ideas, but perhaps pre op could identify that they have a source of info.... NOT real life experience. Just me⭐️

[WL WARRIOR 690]

I agree with you on that one completely! There was a post the other day from a lady arguing that she was tired of hearing that your stomach capacity increases after you hit the one year post op mark. I can't remember the exact words used, but she went on to say that your restriction stays the same even many years after surgery. Was this from her own personal experience? Nope. She hadn't even gone through surgery yet.

I mean, how do you really know if you haven't experienced it for yourself?

[lmm300missouri 95]

Reality

I DO have thyroid and I am on steroids often and I can gain 10-20 lbs within days. It is partly why I had the surgery so I just can't eat what I feel I need when on meds. Of course we know it is eating and lack of exercise is what helps make us fat. But I'm eating around 600 calories am exercising and due to thyroid and meds am barely loosing, so DONT tell me they mean nothing.

[WL WARRIOR 690]

Reality: I've had hypothyroidism for the past eight years and have been on psych meds. I never mentioned steroids, which I know contributes to weight gain. My last blood panel still showed my thyroid was still low and it does make weight loss a struggle, but not impossible. I had surgery almost 11 months ago and I remember how frustrating it was the first few months post op. Like you, I had to reduce my calories to around 600 for the first 6 months.

I never mentioned that hypothyroidism and meds mean nothing. In fact, I mentioned that they do contribute to weight gain. If the two are combined with crappy eating (overeating, junk food), then it is quite easy to get 100 pounds overweight.

The point I was trying to make was that there are SOME people that are somewhat reluctant to recognize faults or problems in themselves. In other words, denial. You have to be honest about the kinds and amount of food you ate before surgery. You have to come to terms with your denial. If you stay in denial, it may keep you from having the responsibility for yourself. If you fool yourself into believing that you don't eat much everyday, then it is easy to deny responsibility for your obesity. This will keep you from changing behaviors that are necessary in order to successful after weight loss surgery.

Then there are those that rationalize their obesity (excuses, excuses, excuses) or create defense mechanisms. Unpleasant emotions are created when we realize what we have done to get morbidly obese and many create excuses (blaming morbid obesity solely so on genetics, society, a medication) to keep these emotions at bay.

We all know that it is hard to lose weight and keep it off. Learning all those new behaviors and giving up your favorite food is difficult. A healthier body will result from your having a healthier mindset.

[Elode 8,093]

I'm almost positive people don't say anything when you've OBVIOUSLY drop a ton of weight because they don't want to seem rude. It's awkward to have a conversation about another persons weight. I can, with close friends but I can see why people just stay quiet. I get a LOT of up and down looks so I know they notice. Some will finally get curious enough to say something. It's kinda funny.