Need more hope

[apeters9284 61]

Hey Ladies!

I posted a few months ago about infertility and wanting some hope about TTC further out after surgery. Well we are going to start trying in August and I am terrified! Let me run down our history real quick.

I'm 30 and my hubby is 35. He has 2 teen daughters and we have been trying for a baby for almost 6 years now. Last summer we did some fertility treatments with an amazing RE who was confident that we could conceive because all of our tests came out perfect. Infertility was unexplained. There was speculation that I have PCOS. After 3 failed cycles with only 1 of them producing any eggs, I got discouraged. All the hormones, injections and appointments became overwhelming. Dr never blamed my weight but said it could be a problem. I decided to take a step back and get healthy! I had gained 38 pounds from all the hormones and stress eating so I started out at 388lbs. So here we are today and I am down 112lbs. I still would like to lose 70 more lbs and working hard at it. But we are ready to start trying again naturally next month. I'm scared to death because what if this doesn't work after all that hard work? What if we still need treatments? So many what ifs! It is so scary to me! Wanting a child is something I have always wanted! I guess I just would love for some of yalls stories about successfully getting pregnant after VSG! I was addicted to looking at before and after pictures before surgery so now I want to see great stories of pregnancy! I just need some hope! Thanks everyone!

[AngelEyesInNJ 186]

Oh good luck and lots of baby dust to you!! I had never gotten tested for fertility but just thought there was a problem with me since I had never gotten pregnant and my ex husband had a child with his current wife. I decided on the VGS with the hopes of coming off of bloodpressure meds and to get pregnant when the time was right.

My husband and I activly tried for 3 months and the 3rd month we got pregnant. I charted to see when I was ovulating and we also used PreSeed so I am thinking the combination of all 3 worked and my son just turned 5 months old on Sunday

If you ever want to talk or have more questions I am here

[apeters9284 61]

Thanks so much AngelEyes! It is such a stressful journey and I become obsessed over it which doesn't help with trying. I'm trying to just leave it in God's hands and trust His plan!

We tried PreSeed in the past and I think I am going to try that again next month. I never get positive OPKs so I need to probably temp to check for ovulation. How did you track yours? My fertility doctor said its not uncommon for some women to never get a positive on those test.

Congrats on your precious son!!! How was pregnancy with VSG?

[AngelEyesInNJ 186]

Since my period was normal I ordered the ovulation tests from eBay since they were cheaper and would test around day 13 and so on until it was positive then I tell hubby and he put his work in haha. The day we conceived we did it 3 times so crazy but we honestly didn't think it would happen so soon. All of the other times it was once or twice during ovulation.

Pregnancy was great!! I was actually happy that I was able to eat a bit more without feeling the restriction. My pregnancy actually was easy I didn't have morning sickness really maybe only 2 times, I didn't get a big huge baby bump he actually popped around 28w but I still wasnt huge when I had him at 38w

[apeters9284 61]

Yeah I bought a bunch off of Amazon but can't get positives. But the drinking tons of Water all day really dilute my urine. We are trying for the every other day and think the 3 days right at ovulation. Boy! I'm exhausted lol!

So glad it didn't take you long yo get pregnant. I may be worried for nothing! I pray that's the case. And I pray my pregnancy will be that easy. I'd like to think I'll be thankful for any symptoms at this point. I still carry majority of my weight around my stomach, thanks PCOS, so I'm assuming I won't have a huge bump either. But after losing 117lbs... It will definitely be more noticeable!

How far out of surgery did you get pregnant? How close were you to goal weight?

[AngelEyesInNJ 186]

One huge thing to remember is not to stress I think that is bad for when you are trying. I always hear stories of when people stopped stressing it they wound up getting pregnant

Yeah most of my weight is around my tummy I have all of that beautiful extra skin and still have my back rolls haha I had the surgery Nov 2012 and became pregnant June 2014.

Goal weight I am still far from it... when I started my journey I was 303 .. day of surgery I was 282 and the lowest I had gotten down to was 187 but when I found out I was pregnant I was 199. I wanted to get down to 140 but I will take 150-160 since I have a bigger bone frame. Right now though I have to go to the Dr. Monday because I started the Depo shot after I had my son and now I am gaining weight like crazy. I had gotten down to 196 after having him and now I am at 213.

[apeters9284 61]

Not stressing is so hard when you are watching everything that your body is doing like a hawk. I so wish I was someone who accidentally would get pregnant, but km just not. We are trying to just enjoy it as much as we can.

You waited a while to get pregnant. I'm only almost a year out. My purpose for the surgery was to be healthier so I could get pregnant so my surgeon knew I was only waiting the 12 months.

Yeah depo shots are not good! I have seen so many women struggle with weight on them. I hope you can figure that all out and get back closer to goal! You have done a great job so far! Thanks so much for all your help!