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[perforce 243]

My mom was actually massively unsupportive when I told her, and continued to be for a few months, then one day I called her and she said a co-workers husband had had it done and lost a lot of weight and suddenly she didn't have a problem with it? It let me feeling vaguely insulted, but it's better than her attitude before so I just let it go.

[taweedeegirl 68]

My mom was actually massively unsupportive when I told her, and continued to be for a few months, then one day I called her and she said a co-workers husband had had it done and lost a lot of weight and suddenly she didn't have a problem with it? It let me feeling vaguely insulted, but it's better than her attitude before so I just let it go.

are u going to ask her what the change of heart was?!! and what were her fears initially ?! no all of a sudden she's ok with it, because of a co-worker?

I'd let her know that were hurt previously by her action

[perforce 243]

We've talked about her negative reaction as much as either of us are willing to, sometimes it's better to take a breath and move forward. I can talk about getting the surgery etc booked now without her getting angry and bitchy and that's more than I expected after our first two attempts at talking about it.

Her fears, she claims, we're about the dangers of surgery. But I think there was a lot more going on internally for her than she was willing to admit to herself, with her food is love mentality and the fact that she is big herself so I belive she's feeling... judged? Kind of? Even though that's not the case. I also think that it makes her have to take a long hard look at her own weight and is just easier to get angry and be unsupportive than deal with that you know?

I will not be staying with her when I get home (I'll be in my father's house and she lives 2.5 hrs away) so I'm just not going to see her until I feel more settled into post-op life as I don't want her opinions to affect me mentally if her attitude gets the better of her. I'm hoping for the best and preparing for the worst.

Edited November 22, 2015 by perforce

[mistylgould 10]

Oklahoma as well @@Prater77