Decided to go with 401k loan - nervous but excited!

[kcarroll 4]

So I posted last night, and got a few replies - thank you everyone for your thoughts! Now..once I receive that money..the only thing standing in my way..is me. Whoa..crazy concept. It's weird how much you want something and know it's the right choice for you, and then all of a sudden, when you begin to realize it's within your grasp, you have these major doubts and inner conflicts! I'm forging ahead but geez..who knew that once it came down to it, I'd be the one giving myself such a hard time! I've decided not to make the surgery public, which is scary, as I know in all the books and research I've done, everyone tells you to have a good support group, people to lean on when you're going through recovery, but my family just doesn't understand. I know there will be ups and downs, struggles and victories along the way, which I'm okay with; I've come to terms with it..but whew.. This is still kinda huge, and if anyone has any encouraging words from sleevers out there, they would be greatly appreciated!

[danaadoo 26]

I am on the same boat about not telling the entirety of my family. My immediate family knows about it and they are split about my decision. Honestly, the norm understanding of this surgery is that we are giving up, when in reality we are making a big lifestyle choice. This is something that's good for us. So if you need any help with support, or you feel doubt, or anxiety about any of this just shoot me a message!! God bless!

[kcarroll 4]

Thank you so much!! You hit the nail on the head with what you said about people thinking we are "giving up." If they knew or cared to research anything about it, they'd know that the surgery is only a tool. We have to change our habits, and learn about healthy living - the change has to come through us. The surgery may jumpstart everything, but at the end of the day, it's up to us! Do you have a date yet, and are you staying within the U.S.?

[Miz.Phenom 32]

Same here. Ive told my two besties and my husband. they've been very supportive ive told others that were complete jerks about it "stop being lazy and workout" so im not telling anyone else. I dont need that negativity n my life. so...smart move my friend LOL

[fatsincebirth 10]

I wish I hadn't told anybody, but maybe that's just because I'm a private person. You have to do what's right for you.

[Miz.Phenom 32]

Yea I kno what u mean. sometimes I feel lk I should have kept my mouth shut lol but I couldn't help myself.