Cheated already!

[eisorp 13]

I'm dying that I cheated already 3 weeks post - op

It was daughter's adoption party and I grazed the entire day and didn't feel so full so kept grazing! Being stuck doesn't help my mindset either- has anyone done this before- what do I do now ?? Feeling so ashamed!!

[BizzyB 119]

Every day is a new day to pick your self up and start again! I'd focus on why you decided to get the surgery and what you want to achieve. I always try to remind myself of that along with reminding myself I has a hugely invasive surgery... and for what? To achieve my goals. Just remember that the sleeve can't do all the work and we still have to exercise some self restraint and follow the doc's instructions to get the best results out of the tool we've been given!

[CloserToFine 172]

First of all, @@eisorp, please let go of the shame. It weighs more than any food or any excess pounds we carry.

I'm only 2 weeks post-op, but I'm still trying to figure out how to eat. I'm still figuring out what "full" means. Half the time, I don't know whether I can eat more or not. You're only three weeks out, and you're still learning your new stomach. It's all okay. You will figure it out eventually.

Don't stress more than necessary.

Happy adoption!!!!

[LivingFree! 478]

Maybe think about your words a little. It wasn't cheating. It was a CHOICE. Every piece of food we put in our mouths for the rest of our lives is a choice, and OUR CHOICE ONLY. Grazing all day was not your best choice. You will have days that you don't make the best choices. You will have days when you make GREAT choices. That is life. You can either choose to live each day in regret and shame every time you make an unhealthy food choice, or you can decide that only you are responsible for what you choose to eat. Taking responsibility and having a willingness and open mind to let go of old habits and work on creating new life-long healthy habits (especially when we get just plain tired and don't feel like working on it anymore) definitely does make for a better life in the long run.

There's going to be sooooo many "reasons" we have for our eating plan not going right (this party, that party, this crisis, that crisis). The more we cement in our minds that LIFE HAPPENS and we no longer need to use food as our comfort, our friend, our loved one, our celebration, the more control we gain over our food and the less control our food has over us.

How about replacing that feeling of shame with a feeling of strength???

Edited July 3, 2015 by LivingFree!

[sweetie716 270]

Just keep truckin. That's all anyone can do

[no onions 258]

Skip the shame and just acknowledge the fact that you did not stay on plan AND get back on the wagon and kick-ass. :-)

You can do it!

Edited July 3, 2015 by no onions

[jhclikesshopping@gmail.com 285]

I agree with many of the posts/ replies so far. Try to forget the shame - I know its hard but try. Secondly, kudos for you to acknowledge it. You did it - you thought about it - now plan how not to do it again. You have got this....

[eisorp 13]

Thanks for all the support! Today I woke up with a new determination and exercised extra hard...after cheating I've realized that there will be a million life events and I need to really learn how to handle them...this has probably been the most difficult part of this surgery.

[seesuzyshrink 52]

That's the spirit! We're going to have a lot of situations that will make us stop and think. How we respond to these situations may make all the difference between success and failure. You've already acknowledged that grazing is a bad choice so you're ahead of the game!! You're going to do great!! Keep your head up and smile! ????

[slvarltx 332]

The dictionary defines cheating as:

to break a rule or law usually to gain an advantage at something

: to take something from (someone) by lying or breaking a rule

So you didn't cheat at all as you didn't gain any advantage. Words have power! The one day that you didn't follow the plan is no big deal if you follow the plan all the other days. There is no shame here. You made a bad decision one day...not a big deal. Try to do better in the future. In all likelihood it won't be the last time you make poor decisions about food. We didn't agree as a group to have 85%+ of or stomachs removed because we had a healthy relationship with food!

[hockeyfan7 249]

I have a question for you. Seriously how much did you REALLY eat? Did you totally pig out and eat thousands of calories or did you eat more than you would normally expect to at this point?

I bet if you sit down and look at what you ate and wrote it down you might be surprised that it wasn't near as much as you think it was.

[The Candidate 3,215]

You had a misstep and learned from it. So just move on from here and let it go. Now if you're in any way thinking your journey is over, deeming the operation a dismal failure, because of this single incident, and you're going to continue to eat out of control from now on, because what's the point, then you'd be right to be concerned.

But I'm sure you know that that's not the case.

One day does not define you, nor does it discount all the compliant days you had before this one. Forgive yourself. ????

[Catherine Davis 36]

Hi all. For many of those who have food obsession or food addiction (like myself) it is difficult to just stop doing the addictive behaviour. One approach is to substitute more positive behaviours for the overeating etc. Can I ask, what have you been able to substitute or change to help overcome unhealthy eating behaviours? ????

[gtrigona1 3]

Hi I'm totally depressed...I just cheated about half an hour ago. I am 7 days post op and have literally followed everything perfectly. I don't know why I did it. I had 4 crackers with a slice of cheese. Now I'm in pain..mentally and physically ????