Am I really that vain?

[Sylvia13 64]

Someone noticed! A friend at work who I haven't seen in a while said, "Something's different about you. Have you been losing weight?" I was thrilled, but of course didn't want her to know how over the moon I was by her comment. I simply said in reply that I've working hard at it and it was nice of her to notice. I've been smiling ever since!

[CowgirlJane 14,259]

I had lost 50# before anyone noticed.

By 100# everybody noticed.

By 150# lost...va voom!!!

[ProudGrammy 8,322]

@@Sylvia13

Am I really that vain?

YES!!!

kidding bud

no you are not vain!!!!!

I don't think what you said about yourself pertains to vanity anyways

nothing wrong with feeling proud, happy

better about yourself

weight loss/ accomplishments etc

sounds like you want to hear a few well deserved comments/compliments

nothing wrong with that

you have/ will continue to lose more weight and feel wonderful

people will notice your weight loss sooner than later

you WILL get those nice comments

per you

"I have to laugh though because I really didn't want to share with others that I've had the surgery -- I got my wish didn't I? :)"

yep as "they" say, "be careful what you ask/wish for"

for what its worth, I think you are looking great

i envy your 5'11 stature to my 5'3 height (or lack of )

vanity??

someone who continually "checks" themselves out in the mirrors at Kohl's

oh wait that's me!!!

keep up the good job cutey

kathy

congrats

[ProudGrammy 8,322]

not one person outside my family noticed that I've lost weight

[judyoz 240]

I have lost over 40 lbs and nobody says a word. But I have gone down almost 2 sizes so feel great about it. I think the more you have to lose the longer it takes for people to notice. Just my opinion.

[Kushka 36]

This was an interesting set of comments to read. Today was my first day back to work since my 6/22/15 surgery. I didn't expect (or want) any comments as no one at work knows about my sleeve except my boss, and because I am also up and down and all around with weight.

For the future, I think I'll much prefer "you look great!" to "have you lost weight?" I'm going to take that to heart myself when I compliment others.

I LOVE the answer above to "how much have you lost?" "Just enough to be sassy." I can't wait to use that one!!!!

[rosepose 105]

Lol! People can't win. I HATE comments about my appearance when I'm losing weight.... Actually I don't like comments about my body under most circumstances. Cute hair? Fine. Nice outfit? Fine. "you're looking thinner" as they look at my body... they might as well say "great boobs" in terms of how inappropriate it feels.

[maggiemayuk 106]

I agree that it takes quite a while for people who see you regularly to notice. It's usually after a break that the penny drops. This suits me fine as I don't want the attention. Most people just say that I'm looking well, which is fine. No-one has been rude enough to ask outright how much I've lost - the nearest has been 'You must have lost loads' and I just say yes thanks I have and change the subject. Some people have worried that I'm ill, as I had cancer three years ago so they ask if I've lost it on purpose. One of my friends knows about the surgery but didn't notice anything until I'd lost over 50lb. Now when she sees me she asks if my clothes are getting looser. I'm down 6 sizes so if I tried to wear my original clothes they'd be in a pool around my feet!

[Rogofulm 2,440]

I've said this before, but my favorite comment was, "You've lost a crap ton of weight!" Makes me wonder, though... How many pounds are in a crap ton?

[TealSister 296]

I haven't been shy about telling people about the surgery. However it took until around 50 # for people to actually notice. A few of my self-absorbed size 0 sisters-in-law have not said a word (I'm at 71 # lost now) - which is fine. Also I guess I should watch my mouth because everyone who asks how much I've lost or how I'm doing, I respond proudly "Down 71 lbs, 66 to go!" I kind of tell it like it is :/

[Rogofulm 2,440]

I haven't been shy about telling people about the surgery. Also I guess I should watch my mouth because everyone who asks how much I've lost or how I'm doing, I respond proudly "Down 71 lbs, 66 to go!" I kind of tell it like it is :/

That was my m.o. too. And it works great... as long as you keep losing. I imagine that if you stop before reaching goal, the question and answer thing might get a little squeamish. On the other hand, it sure is a great motivator!

[Chrystee 838]

I am so please that at 5 weeks post surgery I've lost 39 lbs (since I've started this journey). I feel so much better, it's amazing! However not one person outside of my family has noticed that I've lost weight. I realize that I'm 5'11" and proportionally that's not as much than if I was 5'2", but still I'm disappointed. I know, I know that I didn't do this for the reaction I'd get, but it still bugs me. I have to laugh though because I really didn't want to share with others that I've had the surgery -- I got my wish didn't I?

I'm down a little over 60 and people are JUST starting to notice, and I'm 5'5.

Plus, if these people see you often, the change is kind of gradual.. They'll notice soon!

Edited July 9, 2015 by Chrystee

[MichiganChic 3,262]

I lost about 60 pounds and was down from a 24/26 to about a 22 before people said anything. However, I think I must have looked different to them because I have never had so many nice compliments about my hair, lol! I had worked in the same hospital for 30 years, so I knew everyone well, and while they didn't know about my surgery, they were generally nice, supportive people.

I left that job and went to a new one at 100 pounds lost, and lost the remaining roughly 50 pounds in the first 6 months. I also loved that no one there knew me as a morbidly obese person. Only 2 or 3 people ever noticed/mentioned that weight loss. I don't think it's a dramatic. However, when I see someone from my old job, they are still blown away. Lots of the time, people do not recognize me. I can go incognito in a town I've lived in my entire life.

[rosepose 105]

@MichiganChic The hair compliments are actually about your face looking thinner and their not quite attributing the change in how your face looks to the right place.

Well done and I can see how nice it would be to switch jobs at that point so that you can just be your present self and not bring any baggage from the past along with you.