Family Support Problems

[valzie 0]

It is only 8:43 in the morning and I am already discussed! Since I have made the decision to get banded everyone seems to be an expert on weight loss and band failures. My father started by saying that I dont need surgery I just need to push myself away from the table. Great advice from someone who has never had a weight problem.

My husband's Aunt, who is like a mother to me since my mother passed away, says she knows someone who had it done and hasn't lost hardly anything. He says it doesn't work and joined Weight Watchers and lost 20 lbs. I asked her who his surgeon was and that I would love to talk to him if I could have email address or phone number. She never gave me either one.

My brother told my Aunt and Uncle the other day, I wish he hadn't, and he told me they said that they are very concerned about me because no one should have surgery if they don't need it. They too know someone who got banded and it didnt do anything. They are just as heavy as before they got it.

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! I shouldn't have told anyone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

:angry :faint: :help:

[HarleyNana 10]

Invite your aunt to look at the before and after pics on this site. There are lots of very successful stories here, some not as much as others. Also, if you could push yourself away from the table, you wouldn't be getting the band.

Go for it!

[faithmd 14]

Exactly why I didn't tell folks. But it's done now and you can't take it back. I love HarleyNana's suggestion of showing them the before and after pics of folks here!

I also agree, if it were so easy to just push yourself away from the table, there wouldn't be an obesity epidemic. That having been said, the Band does require work and committment in order for it be the best tool it can be.

This is your decision, this is your health and your body (not theirs), go for it!

[travelgirl 3]

The problem with pushing ourselves away from the table is, WE DON'T JUST EAT AT THE TABLE. I was a grazer. I'd eat literally all day long. If I wasn't eating a meal, I was either snacking on something or looking for something to snack on.

If you can't get support from your family, you'll get plenty here.... (((hugs)))

[valzie 0]

Thank you all so much. I am so glad that this site is available. I have never met such nice people and caring too. I just needed to let out a little frustration. I do feel better. I am doing what I believe is best for me. I realize that their feelings are their own and I am sure that they are all concerned. I thank you all for your support!