Pregnant

[JamieLogical 8,700]

I'm late to this party and I just want to add that you need to focus on what is best for YOU and your family. Don't let the noise of others deter you from the course of action that makes the most sense for you. I've always been pro-choice, but I had always believed that I would NEVER have an abortion if it were me. That was until I got pregnant while I was working only part time, had no insurance, and the father was still a full-time college student without a job. Then the choice was SHOCKINGLY easy for me. Like there wasn't even a single second when I seriously considered KEEPING the baby. It's very easy to have convictions in the abstract, but until you are in a situation YOURSELF, you really can never know what you might do in some hypothetical scenario, much less what someone ELSE should do. So I 100% believe you and the father need to make this decision for yourselves and drown out the rest of the noise.

PS: I have never once regretting my decision, though I have MANY times looked back and been extremely thankful that I chose the way I did.

[The Candidate 3,215]

@@jaterika as is often the case whenever a person sincerely asks for advice on a very serious topic, it somehow snowballs into a heated debate about religion and politics, wherein the original post gets lost in the shuffle.

There's only one voice you need to respond to and that's the one inside your own head. When the time is right you will make whatever decision is right for you, and only you.

I wish you peace and happiness.

Edited June 22, 2015 by The Candidate

[shellyd88 463]

@@jaterika no one has the right to judge anyone else pay no mind to that nasty talk whatever u decide is the right decision for you at this time only u must live with what it means to your life and family others don't have to deal with all that it entails emotionally and financially and they certainly won't be paying the bills and buying the food clothes medical care and day care etc etc

[FitFunFamily 53]

There is a pregnancy board here as well, look it up! I've read of several women who get pregnant 2 or 3 weeks after surgery. They have had very successful pregnancies and my Dr said you can continue to lose weight for about the first 3/4 of the pregnancy safely. While it's not recommended to be pregnant this early, it can be quite safe.

[Sleevefornellie 137]

We have to remember that we are here to uplift each other not tear each other down.... I personally had to have one a long time ago because it just wasn't the right time... And unless you've walked in my shoes or anyone else whose been in this situation definitely keep your negative comments to yourselves!!!!THAT MAKES ME SICK!!!! How about that!!!! Unfortunate some of us weren't born with silver spoons in our mouths... Or have had family, financial, emotional support in decisions that had to be made...@jaterika:: talk it over with your significant other and listen to that special voice from within... Make a sound decision based on what u think is best!!!! Good luck to u!!! and there are some beautiful people here who are your bariatric family and will support u in whatever u decide...I'm one of them...

Edited June 23, 2015 by Sleevefornellie

[jordantaylor 51]

@@jaterika first off, it will all be ok. I firmly believe that you are exactly where you are supposed to be in life at any given moment.

I wanted to tell you that I had a scare (I'm a month post-op) and did some research, and I have actually not read anywhere that fetuses are harmed significantly when a pregnancy occurs earlier than planned. What I have read is that you do have to be very careful and make sure you're getting adequate nutrients and hydration, which can be done with a good nutritionist and doctor. I would get a 2nd opinion from another OB if you're considering that route.

Whatever you decide to do, we are here to support you. It's your choice, trust yourself. Take some deep breaths and try not to worry too much

[Soapandcandlequeen 124]

We need to all hold our own opinions and judgements aside. Unless you are the one pregnant facing this situation then you truly don't know what it's like. Lets all just support each other. Its a very personal problem and a very personal decision. No one opinion or view is wrong or right. Prayers with you and you have to make the decision right for you at this time in your life that at the end of the day you can live with. There are plenty here that will support you either way.

[jaxmom1974 53]

Good luck on whatever decision u make. This is a stressful time for you I'm sure. You are in my thoughts!