Caring for kids

[anna0322 90]

I'm getting sleeved on July 2nd. I have two kids ages 1 & 3. My question is how hard was it to care for your kids after surgery? Did you have any help, if so for how long? I'm a stay at home mom and my husband will only be taking a couple days off. Thanks.

[rvan09 4]

This has been beyond hard. My mom stayed with us for 2 weeks after the surgery, and I could have used another week. I got sick (pre-school crud) last week, and I haven't had a chance to get better because my husband can't take anymore time off of work. My kiddos are 6 months and almost 4 years old.

Basically, if you feel a little off, make time to go to the doctor. Ask for help. I'm sure that you are used to taking care of everything, but you have to let people help you so you can heal.

[anna0322 90]

That's what worries me the most. That I will not have any help while my husband is at work and I'll end up doing too much and make things worse. You're right I am used to taking care of everything I had a c-section with both kids and I basically handled everything on my own with both since my husband doesn't get a lot of time off. I hope you feel better soon, take care of yourself.

[Beachsprite 118]

I worry about this too, I have a 1 year old, a 4 year old and a 6 year old, and the 4 and 6 year old are fairly big for their age and rough boys that love to jump on mummy for a hug :|

While I do work full time and can't have more than 2 weeks max off I do worry about the evenings and weekends. My family live overseas no no sure what i'm going to do for support and my husband already works 6 days a week it's putting a lot of pressure on him also.

Still not sure how i'm going to tackle this. Would love to hear from others who survived without getting injured with young kiddies!

[Bethson 6]

I'm a grandma whose grandson, aged 2, lives with us. I struggle with the being old issue on top of the post surgery issue. I took two weeks off from work. My husband was home the first week to help. The second week I took my grandson to his usual daycare. I still had to get him ready and take him there, then was exhausted just from that little bit of exertion. Now back at work I still have to get him ready and get him there and still exhausted as I head off to work. You ladies who are caring for your kids full time after surgery take care of yourselves. Just like after giving birth, nap when they nap and don't push yourself to try to be supermom. You'll get your strength back and more, but take advantage of offers from friends and family to help these first few weeks.

[rosieuk 58]

I have a 3 year old and a 5 month old. I have to say I needed help for a couple of weeks. I could manage explaining not to jump on mummy etc but the fatigue was pretty bad. I would have struggled without extra help

[onesleevedmamma 178]

I have no other health issues (makes a difference in recovery) and was 236 on surgery day. I stayed 2 days after surgery in the hospital.

My kids are 4 & 2 (special needs).

Mt parents took them on a 3 day trip when I got home which was perfect amount of time for me to be ready for them. I wasn't allowed to pick them up for 2 weeks but it was alright because I could roll him onto the couch or help him into bed. Luckily not a crib anymore.

The not allowed to lift will be the biggest issue. I did lift him a couple times. It didn't hurt, but I worried about ripping stitches. Luckily it was fine

Hope that helped!

[anna0322 90]

Thank you all for your feedback. This really helped me a lot, I figured I could do it on l my own but after reading your responses I asked my mom for help. My 1 year old still sleeps in his crib and I know I won't be able to lift him. Luckily my mom said yes so I'm happy to say I can stop stressing off of that. Thanks again!

[onesleevedmamma 178]

That's so great she will help! Keep us posted

[onesleevedmamma 178]

if you ever watch YouTube there areally a wealth of videos of all sizesizes of people and progress, recovery, complications, tips, etc.