To be or not to be

[Serra Cherub 12]

So my WLS started when I found out I had PCOS. Basically it was a wake up call that if I ever wanted kids then I needed to get healthy and be pro-active. Fast forward 1.5 years. I had my gastric bypass 9/30/14 and am down from 330lbs to roughly 220lbs. Huge success for 8ish months but still not exactly where I want to be. Right now I am struggling with the "I am about to be 30 and still havent had a baby" phase of my life. Logically I know I have a ways to go before my journey is complete and it is recommended to wait minimum 18 months before getting pregnant, but the depression this realization has caused is stalling me and setting me back. Its just really hard to reconcile what your head wants and knows versus what your heart is yearning for. I dont really feel like I can express these feelings to anyone else and I am not sure if I am alone in this but to at least feel like I can put it out there, somewhere... well that helps some.

[_Brooke_ 45]

I don't know how much this will help...

So I have not had the surgery yet, but I do have PCOS and have not been able to have a child either. I understand it is so frustrating to see everyone else having children and wanting the same for yourself. PCOS is one of the reasons I'm working towards the gastric bypass, so I can have children. My surgeon told me that I needed to wait 18 months. I know it may seem hard, but wouldn't you like to be healthy when you bring a child into this world? That way you can teach him or her how to be healthy. Also, I'm sure that being a more healthy weight should increase your chances for not miscarrying. I personally have miscarried numerous times and it never gets easier. I know 18 months seems like a long time, but it gives you time to adjust to eating healthier and decreases your chances of miscarriage.

[Amylou 206]

I'm still pre-op but I will tell you that 32 is not too old to be pregnant. More and more women are having healthy babies from healthy pregnancies into their 40's. The most important thing is that you go into pregnancy healthy - it makes everything about it easier. I've had three babies - and the healthier you can be, the better. I know how plans in our minds and our dreams don't always match up with how reality unfolds but don't let that get you down! By taking the steps to get yourself healthy now, you're already making a positive choice to be a better mom in the future!!! Hang in there!!!

[caligul 102]

So my WLS started when I found out I had PCOS. Basically it was a wake up call that if I ever wanted kids then I needed to get healthy and be pro-active. Fast forward 1.5 years. I had my gastric bypass 9/30/14 and am down from 330lbs to roughly 220lbs. Huge success for 8ish months but still not exactly where I want to be. Right now I am struggling with the "I am about to be 30 and still havent had a baby" phase of my life. Logically I know I have a ways to go before my journey is complete and it is recommended to wait minimum 18 months before getting pregnant, but the depression this realization has caused is stalling me and setting me back. Its just really hard to reconcile what your head wants and knows versus what your heart is yearning for. I dont really feel like I can express these feelings to anyone else and I am not sure if I am alone in this but to at least feel like I can put it out there, somewhere... well that helps some.

Omg I sooo feel you...I'm 35 and the first thing I told my surgeon was I wanted to have a child and that's why I was getting healthy and going through with the surgery. He just said give him a year and I will get pregnant. I to suffer with PCOS and have suffered with it for a very long time and this is going to be my last option to becoming a mom. So I encourage you to just look at the end goal and just say you will end up getting pregnant. Girl...we don't have powdered eggs yet! Stay positive we're here for you!

Btw..im 6 days post op RNY

Edited June 8, 2015 by caligul

[checkmeowt 27]

Ditto.

I'm pre-op, my date is July 15. I have PCOS as well and cannot wait to have a baby. I will be 35 probably before I give birth - older than I wanted, but I will be much healthier.

[Serra Cherub 12]

It feels so amazing to have such wonderful and positive responses to my venting session. Definitely want to make sure when it happens that I am the best I can be for my little one & also make sure that I carry them safely. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!

One day at a time...

[BubblyTXGirl 30]

I have PCOS, and had a hysterectomy at 29. My body never got the memo. I can tell you that post surgery (10/15/14) I finally am rid of facial hair and some of my symptoms that have persisted even 9 years after. If I had known it would help rid me of some of my PCOS SYMPTOMS, I may have waited to have my hysterectomy. I hope this helps. ????. 30 is also not too old to be a new mommy neither is 35! My youngest was born at 34 for me. Via adoption, and I felt more prepared for her. ❤️ good luck future mamas!

[caligul 102]

Omg..I can't wait for no facial hair! !!!

[Weighting2BeFree 164]

I'm three months post op and still have the facial hair. When does this go away?