What happened in your relationship after surgery?

[betrthnever 107]

My SO and I have talked extensively and he supports me 100% in this process of getting surgery (lap band to bypass). He met me when I was bigger because he is attracted to bigger women. But he says he fell in love with me and not the way my body looks. I believe him fully. Will he be attracted to me once I lose my weight? I don't know. And if not, will love (without sexual attraction) be enough to keep us together? What people say they want and what people truly feel don't always equal up. And we will continue to be able to communicate with each other our needs and wants. I realize I am taking a chance on losing him.

He does speak positively about how much more we will be able to do together because I'll be smaller. And how I will be so much healthier and he won't lose me at a younger age. He says this is so much more important then me being bigger. And that feels great to hear him say that!

Ultimately, OUR bodies are only OURS and no matter what happens in our relationships, no matter who we love and who loves us, we will be with ourselves for the rest of our lives. We owe it to ourselves to be the healthiest people we can be.

[skinnyq43 5]

Hello if he love you he should support you no matter what. My surgery was the best thing I could have ever did for myself 7 months in and I feel great.

[lisa0617 54]

I haven't had my surgery yet but my husband informed me he doesn't like change. I am still having surgery. Its my body and my life.

[newmebithebypass 713]

i just want to chime in and say im so sorry for all of you who don't have a supportive spouse that must be terrible.