13 days left, NOT where I need to be, NEED quick advice!

[meyouus 415]

Hello, I am having Band to Bypass on June 17th. Highest weight, 373, lowest weight 336. I did the first half of my three month South Beach diet very well, lost 36 pounds. Now for the last month and a half, I've ended up weighing almost the same, staying on the diet for the most part, but not too well some of the time. I have a very strict, but extremely caring surgeon and nut. I have issues with food addiction, am in a lot of stress (one, my Dad is slowly dying in Hospice who I visit almost every day and listen to how miserable he is, making me miserable: Leukemia) and I'm in a long stint of psychotherapy. Today is the 4th, 13 days till surgery.

My surgeon does not do the pre-op liquid diet, but I need to lose more pounds before surgery to be safe. I don't know that after all this effort that he'd halt the surgery, but I'm scared.

Should I call his office and tell them the truth to ease my questions of whether he'll still do it or not? or...

Go back on Phase 1, and try, try, try to lose weight and pray? or...

Go in the way I am, rest, and risk it?

I am handicapped from my weight and they were SO excited that I lost 36 pounds with very little movement. They noticed I stuck to my diet. Just that this second half has been excruciating.

I'm so scared. but SO excited! I can do it!

[BeagleLover 1,020]

You can! Keep your eye on the prize. The food isn't worth jeopardizing your surgery.

[Rona<3 2]

Maybe you should ask I you can go on liquid diet.. It helps a lot. But I get were you stand.. Focus on the date and in stead of laying down, walk. Go outdoor. Walk in nature, focus and Always remind yourself that this is where you proof your dedication. And when you are done with the surgery you have one less thing controlling your life.

[BeagleLover 1,020]

I've had a different approach. Eight months out, the bad health effects that could have significantly affected my life are gone (diabetes and sleep apnea). My surgeon gave me a wide range of healthy weights for my height-- a range of 33 lbs.! I didn't see any point to picking an arbitrary weight that I would then obsess over. My goal was to be healthy. I believe my weight will settle wherever it needs to. I've met my goal. The rest is gravy.

[Brian88ss 59]

Polly Wolly,

Maybe Rona is right try and see if the liquid diet will help you. Maybe ask your surgeon if it's ok to try the pre op diet. My surgeon is has all of his RNY patients do it. The reason is to shrink the fatty tissue surrounding the liver. Maybe that's a possibility. Do check with your surgeon, they can tell you have been sticking to your guns and they want you to succeed just as everyone else here does too. Best of luck

[SHRINKING LINDA 2]

PollyWolly,

you have had success losing weight so focus on positives instead of negatives. I know that's easy to say but can be hard to do, but look how far you've come already. Having food addiction does make this process a little harder (I too have an addiction to sugar which is not allowed post gastric bypass) but we need to remember why we are doing this. We want a better/healthy life and hopefully not be disabled any longer (I have severe arthritis and need knee and hip replacements so understand not being able to exercise enough). There is a happier life ahead for you. Turn to God when you are struggling (I have and will continue to look toward the Lord for support), it really does help.

Good Luck

[TLW 163]

Even 5 days on the liquid diet will help a lot, don't give up, you are almost their!

[meyouus 415]

Hey everybody! I forgot I posted here! I've been under SO much stress. My Father died yesterday. I'm having a bit of shock and pain going on, I wasn't ready for how he went. But he wanted to see me succeed at the surgery and the weight loss, so that I may live healthier, longer and happier. I don't want to disappoint him.

I went to my WLS clinic today, as I knew, I lost only 2 pounds in a month. When I told them I was on Prednisone that whole month, they brushed it off and said, "No wonder! Don't worry about it". A massive relief to me!

I have surgery on the 17th. The clinic uses the South Beach diet approach, and a week before surgery, they put you on Phase One, to shrink the liver. He doesn't believe in the liquid diet approach and says I'll be fine. Well, if HE says so!

I'm scared of the surgery. Hey, I get scared going to the dentist. What I fear is not being able to get all of that liquid in in a day. Hubby calculated it would take 16 hours a day to drink at least 64 fl oz's in his measurements (of which I can't remember at the moment but have it written down) he requests. A SIP or chip of ice can be difficult post-op? Wow. I have a massive life change ahead of me, I'm human, I'm nervous. But his team are all so nice, but firm. I don't like the "not knowing" in life. Guess I'll have to get used to it!

Thanks everybody for offering kind words and advice. It was a surprise, since I forgot I even posted!

[Brian88ss 59]

Polly,

Remember you will have an IV in the hospital to help you with hydration. But you will stiil need to drink what you can. It be will after discharge you'll have to focus on getting your hydration. Sorry didn't mean to mislead on this, my surgery is Monday June 15th. At least that is the case with my wife's sleeve a year ago I assume the bypass will be similar. Brian

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[meyouus 415]

Polly,

Remember you will have an IV in the hospital. It be will After discharge you'll have to focus on getting your hydration.

Oh. Thank you!