Newbie and I have my first surgeon visit

[stacy47 7]

Hi I am new to this site and would love to hear anyone's advice on how to tell your spouse that you are going to a weight loss surgeon and very much considering the surgery. My husband is a little jealous and I really don't know how to tell him that I am going thru with this surgery .. I need some advice. . Thanks in advance!

[Djmohr 6,965]

I might suggest sharing your feelings about your weight and how it makes you feel so that he has a clear understanding. Then invite him to your appointment with you so he is a partner in your decision.

This is very hard on your significant other especially when they themselves are overweight or obese.

Good luck.

[wannaBthinsoon 1,634]

I just came right out and told him. After a few years of talking about how much I wanted the surgery, I finally took insurance out through my work after he retired. I told him I took the insurance out for the purpose of having the surgery. I was honest and upfront from the beginning. No reason to hide anything, or be ashamed. This is for your health, so why should he be jealous? He should be happy! After all this is something that can help to extend your life! Best wishes in whatever you decide.

[Heatherrc1 37]

Honesty is always the best policy. When someone loves you they want you to be happy. I was concerned about talking with my spouse, as well. When I started the discussion he was totally closed off to it. His response was "I just don't want it to cause you any health emblems in the future." I them asked him if he would go through the process with me and he said he would t have it any other way. We are attending the seminar to get started in a week. The hardest part was telling him that insurance didn't cover it. That made his eyes bug out a little. ???? he then asked me if I could be disciplined enough to spend that kind of money. Good luck!

[stacy47 7]

Thank you all for your kind advice! I am going to talk to him and invite him to my appointment. . He probably won't go but at least I asked him to go