"You will fail"....question

[marysmom1216 12]

So I am an ER nurse. I work frequently with a PA that I am pretty good work friends with. She was looking at me and chucked...when I asked her what she was laughing about she pointed at a cupcake I was eating. I told her that I was enjoying foods I liked since soon I will not be eating such things. I have to admit I have been enjoying Snacks with the thought process of as soon as I have GB I won't be able to tolerate this anymore....I have a HUGE fear of dumping syndrome.

Her response was that I was not going to be successful with GB because I cannot control my eating now and so I will have the surgery and either stretch my pouch or I will get frustrated and have it reversed. I am so hurt by this, but how do I know if she is right?

I love to snack....I love sweets...hence why I am 245 pounds and diabetic. HOWEVER....the reason why I am getting GB vs the sleeve is because you can't cheat without consequences (and it gets rid of the diabetes).

I am so frustrated by this.

Alicia

[rhfactor272 50]

You can do it...I'm sure we all went through some food mourning prior to surgery. Stay positive and educated and you'll do great. This app is great for feeling out what's normal with mind that everyone's different. Keep the nay sayers at a distance.

[Sreeves 56]

I detoxed from sugar during the pre-op diet and I have no compulsion to test out the dumping syndrome thing whatsoever. I am only 7.5 weeks out from surgery right now but I am determined to stay away from sugar for good. I am using this period where I don't feel really hungry to change what goes into my body. It is not right for someone to set you up for failure before you even start your journey! We all have to potential to make our surgery life changing. Don't buy into the negativity. You can do this!!

[zanderman 42]

Why are you defining your success or failure based on a cupcake? You're human.

You may have a cupcake in the future (gasp). You may, or may not dump. Regardless, you will be fighting a battle to become (or remain) healthy. Don't worry about how to mark the score card, the only way you fail is if you give up.

[ShellMilliner 233]

I'm sorry, but I'm absolutely appalled that another medical professional would have the audacity to make such a disparaging remark to you. We all enjoy food that is how we ended up here, but that does not define how we will continue to live our lives.

I think nearly everyone in the days prior to pre-op enjoyed favorite sweets and savories that will no longer play a role in our daily diets. Everyone is different, but I had a big sweet tooth prior to my surgery. I'm close to 9 weeks out and I have no desire for sweets. I hope it stays that way.

Maybe she was trying to scare you into a harsher reality, but the way I read it sounds to me like she needs to go back and do her research.

Hang tough!

[bangbangbarbie 52]

Though just fyi, I don't dump whatsoever, and you may not either!

[Djmohr 6,965]

Don't let one person drag you down, there will be many more non believers or people thinking you will fail. What matters most is that you believe and do everything possible to succeed.

I should tell you not to bank on the bypass causing you to dump. I can eat anything I want just in smaller amount and there are many others who can on this site as well. There are ways to eat around your bypass so you do need to be aware of what draws you to those foods. It's ok to have something once in a while but getting rid of your sugar addiction is necessary to be successful.

The good news is, the pre op diet and several weeks of liquids post surgery will help you break that sugar habit.

Also, almost everyone has their favorite food funerals before they go through this surgery. For me, that was Pasta and sweets.

Keep your head up and just remember you are the one that can control your success.

☺️

[goregalore 16]

I don't dump over anything. I had a hardcore sugar addiction before my bypass revision and thus far I don't have cravings for sugar. I don't do a low carb diet so I do eat fruits so maybe that takes care of the sweet tooth I have. I never have cravings for cake or Cookies or anything I was struggling with just a few months ago... Just my two cents.

[Abbie213 2]

I am glad I read this. I have been having 1 last favorite this or that over the last 3 months of my liver shrinking diet. 4 major cheats.... my surgery is 6/8... I had a king size candy bar tonight.... my belly told me I was a fool...lol. I am looking forward to having a new tool. I have hope for the first time in many, many years. I too had a dietician tell my mom that wls is just a money maker when my nurse mother was looking for honest input..... people regardless of there background dont think about the effect of there words. ...

[storyboy 13]

Even though the pre-op liver shrinking included sweet shakes and bars, I am 6 weeks post-op and only occasionally feel a little pull towards cake, chocolate, pie, dessert. Mostly I can walk right past shop displays and can even watch those close-up food-porn shots on TV cooking shows without wanting to join in. A couple of spoonfuls of slightly sweet yogurt or maybe a couple of dried apple chips fix any desire for sweet food after dinner.

For snacking, lite milk is sweet enough and has the Protein to get rid of hunger pangs.

Four weeks post-op I was feeling over-confident because everything had gone smoothly, so I resumed my weekly trip to the farmers market and while I was there I bought a slice of quiche and ate half the filling. I thought it was only egg and milk or cream, and wouldn't be a problem. But I had eaten lunch only half an hour before. Whoa! The reaction was so extreme and awful - sweating, dizziness, needing to vomit, couldn't sit down, couldn't stand up, had difficulty catching my breath - for about 15 minutes that it put me right back on track. If that was dumping I never want to go there again!