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almurphy0408 · May 22, 2015

I started my surgery journey in December with my first weigh in with my GP. I have had all the required test done seemed like it was never ending but worth it. Now I go this next Thursday for my final GP weigh in yea! My office has already scheduled a date for July 7th. I'm praying nothing goes wrong with my approval. I have to do a two week liquid diet before hand. Some fears of failure have been bothering me lately I want this so much but have the what if I don't lose weight. Has anyone else felt this way pre surgery?

Mrbig77 · May 23, 2015

The feeling of failure is probably normal.... i guess depending on why you have that feeling.

For me i felt that bariatric surgery was cheating and I felt bad that i couldn't loose the weight or keep the weight off myself or at least do it consistently.... hitting 400+ pounds along with the health problems associated with the weight is what finally made me decide to have the surgery.

I also felt like I could possibly be fixing one problem and trading it for another. I was happy that my health and weight related issues would be under control .... but i was worried about my post-op look. call it silly, or say that I'm worried about the wrong thing.... but as i put in an earlier post... I have a wife and she married me big... not the way i feared i could look. This was a serious thought of mine. Unfortunately I don't see that aspect of the surgery talked about. The stereotypical bariatric candidate is fat and sloppy and seems willing to trade their soul to loose weight. they are happy no matter how they look afterwards, so long as the weight is off.... This wasn't me.

I didn't want to be one of these people who lost weight and then looked worse than i did prior surgery, if you know what i mean. excess skin, dis proportioned body ,etc etc. I caught some flack for having that concern... but nevertheless it was an honest concern of mine... I wasn't one of these people that was fat and sloppy and embarrassed to be big. I was clean cut, well dressed... big sexy if you will. I carried my weight well.... so like i said earlier, this was a major concern of mine.

I can tell you that all of my worries were seem to have been for nothing... the weight is coming off and i am very satisfied....I'm 3 weeks post op and I couldn't be happier. My blood pressure is controlled (without medicine) and as more weight comes off I look forward to some of my other health issues being taken care of.

Surgery is half the battle, though... changing your life style for good is the other half... working out, eating healthier, etc etc.

The liquid diet isn't that bad. fight through the first couple of days and you will be fine. if your doctors office is good your approval shouldn't be an issue.... your insurance company has guidelines in place and your doctors office should work with you to make sure that those guidelines are met. i had my surgery done in Atlanta... by Doctor Del Mazo and I didn't have any approval issues.... they told me what i needed and i made sure i had it, what i didn't have or couldn't get, they assisted me with it.

PM me if you have any more questions... sorry if i went off topic.