Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Don't you just hate it when you can't get out of your own way?



Recommended Posts

So other people have mentioned how uncomfortable they are in the gym, and I felt like I've given some pretty good, and valid, advice - don't worry about it! No one cares! And I know from experience that this is true - honestly, I've found that the bigger I was, the more positive feedback I got.

Last week, though, I decided to start meeting with a trainer to learn more about strength training exercises. This means I have to move from the "healthy start" side, which is more quiet and full of people I consider to be "my people" - bigger folks, or older folks, or people who are clueless about exercise and just starting out - to the the other side. The side where everyone is wearing spandex and knows what they're doing. All of a sudden, I feel like an imposter that doesn't belong.

Then I walked in the "regular" side of Dress Barn instead of the plus side (at about a 16/18, mostly XL, I know technically that there are some more options open to me) but I almost apologized to someone in the section for being in the wrong place.

It's just been a weird week for me like that. I need to get over it.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

@@roundisashape

You are an inspiration. It is so true. No one cares about the people around them. They are to busy trying to fit their work out in, listening to music or watching TV's set up on the cardio machines.

Congratulations on upping your work out. Soon you will be just another regular at that side of the gym.

I understand the feeling like an imposter. Its still work to get your mind around this is who you are now. You are a work in progress. We all are.......even the people on the other side of the gym in spandex. :-)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thank you for the kind words - I'm going to go over there and pretend I'm exactly where I belong until I start feeling like it, lol. You're looking great, by the way! I want to be you when I grow up :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Honestly, if im at the gym I don't judge someone (small, medium, or large ) because they're working out in one way or they're a "newbie". What really impresses me are those that keep trying and dont give up ! Im 3 months into Pilates classes, and when I cant do what others are doing, I just modify and /or rest until I can continue. You're doing your best and working hard, so be proud of yourself for taking care of yourself !

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I for one am so reassured when I see people of all shapes and sizes and of all ages at the health club. Makes me feel like I absolutely belong there. So if you're self conscious, know that someone at the gym is grateful you are there.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Bashbee91

      Hey guys new to the process looking forward to this new life. 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Bugg

      Hi everyone! I’m brand new here. I just went through all my pre-op requirements per my insurance company and now everything has been submitted and I’m just waiting for final approval and my surgery date. I’ve been doing research, watching YouTube videos, TikTok’s, ect.. trying to prepare my mind and what to expect so I’ll be ready for the surgery. I was so sure and so set and so ready and excited. However, now that I’ve done everything & it’s almost here, I am sooooooo scared! I know why I want it bc I’ve tried everything and I just don’t feel like I can lose weight by myself. I’m tired of being overweight my entire life. I’m miserable, but I keep psyching myself out afraid of GERD bc I know how that can be and I don’t want to have to get a bypass after already gaining the courage to even get VSG. I’m scared of complications like I’mgoing to regret doing it and be depressed that I didn’t just be more disciplined and try again to lose the weight on my own even sitting here typing this knowing in my mind i just can’t and don’t possess the discipline. I’m also afraid I won’t be able to handle the restrictions of the sleeve. What do I eat? I don’t know how to eat healthy really and don’t enjoy healthy food. I don’t know how to do this! I feel so defeated!Someone tell me they felt anything similar to this or am I not ready? I thought I was. I am so tired of being sick and tired and so tired of myself and so tired of being stuck and stuck in this body and somebody different on the outside from what I feel inside. I just want to ball up and cry.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • buildabetteranna

      over 20 lbs down since4 the pre surgery diet and surgery on the 14th
      · 1 reply
      1. Selina333

        Yay!! Congrats. I know how good that feels. 🤩

    • Jenopolis

      Had a sleeve in 2017, lost over 100 pounds. Had a DS surgery this year (2025) for more sustainable weight loss. 🤞
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • buildabetteranna

      The 14th was my day. I am home and recovery is going pretty smooth. They even let me walk out of the hospital. Picture of me in recovery curtesy of my boyfriend lol. 

      · 3 replies
      1. DaisyChainOz

        Glad it went well!! Wishing you a speedy recovery and wonderful success!! 🤗

      2. buildabetteranna

        Thank you ❤️

      3. Selina333

        Neat you have a pic of this day! I was sooo happy to get my surgery. It was well worth it! And I'm not even near my goal. I had surgery Dec. 2!

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×