Questions

[Crtide1 1]

I am in the first stages of being approved for bypass surgery. How do you handle the people that are totally against you doing this. I feel this is the best thing for me and my doctor does too but the negative Nancy's are making me question myself

[Mildred Cox 32]

Do not let other people's actions and words control what you and your doctor feel is best for you. It is a journey but you can do it. You will always have haters!!! Good luck!!!

[TLW 163]

I have only told a few select people because of that. I'm scheduled for surgery May 28 and I know when I return to work the end of Aug (I teach) people will notice, but I have decided I will respond with, " I have spent the summer working on making a healthier me." And leave it there. My mother was VERY unsupportive when I told her what I was going to do, so much so I got tired of hearing her negativity the next time she said something about it, which was in March I told her to just stop because there was no guarantee it would happen because I have to go through testing first. I will not tell her about my surgery, she will see me in July, but by then I Will have had the surgery and hopefully be adapted to my new way of eating.

[RebekahAnn 0]

I had a similar experience with telling my Mom. She was shaking her head before I was able to get the word bi-pass out of my mouth. Completely against it and couldn't understand why I'd "want" to do that. As if it was a trip to Disney or something. She kept saying research it research it, and really think about this.

It was so frustrating but I was persistent and when I finally came to the decision, although she was not on board, I guess she knew I was hell bent on having this done. She was the only one who wasn't on board though. Every doctor and nurse I spoke to all agreed it was best. I have only told 1 other person and he's been very supportive.

What I learned to do before she came to terms with my ultimate decision is that by constantly telling her I was researching and what I had read, and dragging her to my information session. She began to see how it works and all that. I guess knowledge of it ll made it less scary for her.

[Crtide1 1]

Thanks everyone...I have done a lot of research and talked to people that have had it done. What I have found is people that have never dealt with obesity do not understand what I am going through