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hey dont listen to anyone listen to your heart. do this for your self no one but your self. It is a very go tool if you are ready to loss the weight . I was banded in March 2007 have lost 75 lbs. starting weight was 318.i fill wonderful.if you need support or a buddy i would love to be your support buddy you can call on me anytime. as for you fiend ,sorry she is no friend,sounds jealous to me,loss her.sorry! keep in touch, and my prays are with you on band day. love Tracy Bower

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Thank you everyone for all of your support, We hav finally had it out and are still friends. In her mind she "supports" me by being with me helping me recover after. She says I knew she disagreed with it. I consider support what you guys are giving me. You guys make me feel good with all your advice, and warm thoughts. My DH read this post and was touched by how wonderful and caring you all are. I am getting banded in 3 days and I cannot wait! I will update you on my surgery and It really helps to have great people like all of you who are so positive and inspiring. Thank you all!:eek:

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Good luck with your surgery. You're in my thoughts and prayers. Can't wait to hear how you're doing once you're in bandland!

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I just want to add.. because it looks like you made peace and the woman is staying...when she says ANYTHING negative, at all...try not to feed into her.

Ask her what's the point of her message? Does she want you to know she doesn't agree? you know that and she's being redundant.

I guess my point is if you can turn it around on her, and make her defend herself maybe she'll shut her mouth before speaking next time.

And I'm happy you shared the posts with your husband, because he too needs to speak up in your defense when he hears the woman talk negative and he needs to be aware that she's probably going to push up on him...

Trust me she will, she has no boundaries. Her job, your feelings...your man is next.

Better yet, have her read these posts. hehehe..

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