How do you handle family ?

[Band07 374]

As if I wasn't already nervous enough , my family stages a mini intervention tonight to tell me how they love me the just the way I am and how the surgery is to risky and Mexico is definitely too risky and I don't even need the surgery. Let's just say I'm emotionally drained by it all.

[Stephanie Stroup McIntosh 157]

I think its hard for family members. They are just scared. I would try to educate them on the whole process and show them that this isn't something you decided to do lightly and that you did your research and that its safe. Your odds of living actually increase with the surgery.

My husband spent the last 2 weeks leading up to my surgery telling me how beautiful I was and that I didnt need surgery and that he didn't know how he would live without me if something happened. He loves me and was being a little selfish to want to protect me so he didn't lose me. You have to reassure them that this is a smart and safe choice.

[Band07 374]

I had just come from my Crossfit class and I was sitting there still sweaty form the workout I had done, I reminded them how hard I was trying and still gaining weight! I even brought out my original before pics and they all said they never even remembered me being that big ! I understand they love me and they are worried and it makes me sad but it also scares me because I don't want them to be right. I have researched SO much, I think it's just overwhelming for them and for me as well, I mean surgery is scary but on top of that there is worry about flying across the country, going to another country, and to a city once known as the most dangerous city in the world !! I admit, it's a lot of variables !! but, I can't do it without the surgery and I want so badly to feel better again.

[KC VSG 46]

That's why I don't want to tell anyone. I've told one of my sisters and I honestly don't know if she actually believe me! I don't plan on telling anyone else until I get back. When I told the dietician at my pcp office she gave me this lecture about me being so young (27) and that I can do this on my own. She said that the surgery isn't for people who only need to lose 100lbs but more for people who need to lose 200-300. Smh I don't understand how someone with a masters degree can be so small minded and uneducated.

[Band07 374]

Thank you so much for all the encouraging words !! After sleeping on it I'm again feeling confident in my decisions! Though I'm also a little mad I have to admit, not that they love and care for me but that also part of their argument was that "not everyone was meant to be skinny" and "god made me this way "and the more I think about that the more mad i get ! I AM meant to be skinny and more importantly healthy and confident with myself !! And I'm pretty sure, poor genetics, slow metabolism, horrible food choices and an addiction to sugar made me this way ! Lol

[tomzilla23 10]

I don't know if it will help, but I had a "reverse" intervention to tell all my family at once. after the hell no's i show that I had done my research and the facilities were modern and up to date. After much discussing, now i'm having trouble weeding through my support to see who goes with me. I'm sure it will be one of the best choices i have made for my health and well being.

Hope this helps someone.

[Band07 374]

Thankfully my husband has been supportive from the start, it's my parents and grandparents who are not. Right now, the 23rd can't get here soon enough ! I'm so ready to lose this weight !! Best of luck to you, he will come around when he sees how happy it makes you and how much better your feel

[shortybg2 7]

@@Band07 when I told my family I was going to The Dominican Republic for a Tummy Tuck in 2013 they thought I was crazy. However to this day with weight gain and all I still think it was one of the best decisions I ever made. You just have to keep remembering that this is for you! I'm having surgery on the 25th and couldn't be happier with this decision too!!!