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7 almost 8 months out and I ate cake today......feeling guilty.



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I have been at goal for almost 2 months. I eat very carefully and I don't stray too far from my program. But today I knew and had planned on eating cake. I did and now I feel guilty. I have got to get over this. I didn't eat the whole cake. Lol. Just a reasonable size piece. I felt like everyone was watching me even though I know they weren't. I feel bloated and fat. Even though today my mother told me your so skinny. Last week she told me you can't lose anymore weight. And I know I can't lose anymore. I can feel my bones. Weird feeling when you can grab your arm and feel bones. I am not bony but I am happy where I am and want to stay there. I don't think there is anything wrong with eating something that's not real good for you once in a great while and in moderation but I fear I am going to get on the scale in the morning and gain more than I should. Does anyone else at maintanice worry about every little thing they eat?

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Sounds like a head game to me. Part of relearning how to eat is learning how to eat the occasional indulgence without going overboard. I've had cake and chocolate plenty of times since being sleeved. The difference is I no longer eat ALL the cake and chocolate. Just a little, sometimes even just a bite is all I need. I plan for it in my food diary so I don't need to feel guilty about it.

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You shouldn't feel guilty at all. I've had dessert and sweets several times a month since being in maintenance. I even went a little overboard over Christmas and had to go back to basics for a couple weeks in January. But hey, that's what most "normal" people do...splurge a little, gain a little then go back to eating healthy. Remember maintenance is for the rest of your life and you need to find a happy medium and balance a few indulgences with your new healthy lifestyle.

For example, today I ate a normal Easter dinner of ham, mashed potatoes and gravy, sweet potatoes and salad followed by a piece of almond cake with blackberry buttercream frosting. My portions were a fraction of what they would have been preop and everything was delicious! I even brought leftovers home to eat later this week (including another piece of cake). All guilt free! I'll just step on the scale sometime this week and make sure I'm keeping within my bounce range. If not, I'll buckle down and eat Protein and veggies for a few days until I get back in range.

So go ahead and eat your cake....no guilt needed! Find your happy place, enjoy your new skinniness and know that eating "bad" sometimes is OK as long as you keep it under control.

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You shouldn't feel guilty at all. I've had dessert and sweets several times a month since being in maintenance. I even went a little overboard over Christmas and had to go back to basics for a couple weeks in January. But hey, that's what most "normal" people do...splurge a little, gain a little then go back to eating healthy. Remember maintenance is for the rest of your life and you need to find a happy medium and balance a few indulgences with your new healthy lifestyle.

For example, today I ate a normal Easter dinner of ham, mashed potatoes and gravy, sweet potatoes and salad followed by a piece of almond cake with blackberry buttercream frosting. My portions were a fraction of what they would have been preop and everything was delicious! I even brought leftovers home to eat later this week (including another piece of cake). All guilt free! I'll just step on the scale sometime this week and make sure I'm keeping within my bounce range. If not, I'll buckle down and eat Protein and veggies for a few days until I get back in range.

So go ahead and eat your cake....no guilt needed! Find your happy place, enjoy your new skinniness and know that eating "bad" sometimes is OK as long as you keep it under control.

Wow you are my hero! You made me feel so much better about it. Your right. I have a bounce range too. And it's not like I went overboard. Even if I did gain today and I am not sure I did. Starting as quickly as tomorrow will be just fine. ????????????????????

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