Finally told someone & OMG, smh! :(

[blashlee 509]

I struggled with telling people at first. Then as I started to, the reactions I got we're all positive and supportive and excited.

If people who are questioning or judging your decision aren't licensed medical professionals, tell them to stick it where the sun doesn't shine. Their opinion is just that, an opinion. It's based on nothing but their own thoughts, feelings, and perceptions. Not on medical fact or scientific knowledge. Ask them how the surgery is performed and see what they tell you. Odds are, they have no clue. Don't be put off by the opinions of someone who's (pardon my French) talking out of their ass. Everybody knows somebody who knows somebody whose sisters ex boyfriend's mom had WLS and regrets it. Oh the horror.

F those people and do you. Good luck <3

[downsizingdiva 459]

_{ONLY MY FIANCE AND DR KNOW ABOUT MY SURGERY AND THAT IS ONE OF THE REASONS WHY. I AM VERY FREE TO TALK ABOUT IT ALL TO MY FIANCE SO I DON'T REALLY FEEL ALONE IN THIS. ITS PERSONAL TO ME, I LIKE IT JUST BEING OUR BUSINESS AND NOONE ELSE'S.}

[MichiganChic 3,262]

Pre-op, after making my decision to have WLS and feeling fully supported by my husband, I took a long, hard look at my extended family and my best friends and understood clearly that none of them was capable of (1) understanding my situation or (2) understanding as much about WLS as I knew or (3) accepting WLS as a legitimate, smart, modern way to treat my illness.

Most of them are normal-sized or slim or athletic and have never struggled with weight like any of us ever have. Many of them are stylish, sophisticated professionals. Oddly, I've seldom felt judged by them for being heavier than them (I have some other lovely and impressive qualities that they admire). However, over the years their comments in my presence about other heavy people have staggered me. I've learned that many of them believe people like us are undisciplined, uneducated, lazy cowards.

But somehow, they don't think of me "that way." Yeah, totally weird.

So knowing them as I do, I knew they couldn't possibly support me on this journey. So I didn't even invite them into my confidence.

I don't love them any less. I just knew this wouldn't be a concept they would ever get behind.

I am so glad I have not brought them into my confidence.

So funny. I had the same experience as a morbidly obese woman with my friends and colleagues! I could not understand how that was (we are health care professionals) but they just didn't put me in that same bucket. Must have also been my other lovely and impressive qualities that blind-sided them