To tell or not to tell

[HedwigPotter 8]

I'm eagerly awaying my final insurance approval and surgery date and I'm wondering who I should tell about my surgery? I've told the immediate people that I work with and my family, but what about further than that? Part of me thinks that it would be too embarrassing and another part of me thinks that people will, by in large, be supportive. I rationalize that the embarrassment will shame me along because the more people who know about the surgery, the more people I will have urging me on. I don't want shame to be any part of my motiviation though. I can, however, use all of the support I can get, but I don't want to be a compliment seeker either. I've got 200+ to lose so my change will be drastically obvious and I'm sure I'll get questions or comments eventually. I plan to be completely honest and forthcoming to anyone who asks.

What has your experience been and would you reccomend it? Social media? yes/no? Would you do it the same way today?.

Edited March 31, 2015 by HedwigPotter

[jane13 2,256]

my immediate family knows and a couple of co-workers. I am just not quite ready to announce my plans until I am in the post op stage and feeling ok.

[CheleLynn45 615]

While I was going thru the process I was SO SURE I wasn't going to tell very many people. And for me most of that was because I didn't want to be judged. But as time went on (I had to do a 6 month supervised diet before approval) I started to realize I didn't care what they thought. I knew why I was doing this, and by the time the my surgery date came I was sure I would do good!!

Now I am 22 weeks post op, down 86lbs and feeling great!! I don't go around announcing what I have had done, but people who ask I do share. I find I am educating most, since people views of WLS can be not so good. I hawve had nothing but positive attitudes and encouragement. No one has said anything snarky or mean to my face.

Everyone has to do what feels right to them, but don't be ashamed. I know I was in the beginning but a good friend at work helped me see past that. I am now proud of what I have done. Proud so far of what I have accomplished. We all know who have had this surgery this is not an easy road, but it is what you make of it.

I like my new "normal" and wouldn't change anything about it!!