"picky eaters" - my pet peeve

[Kindle 8,667]

@@Bufflehead and @@VSGAnn2014 your renditions of that "other" forum is spot on! And I know that guy and his worshippers. Obviously they never paid attention to his ticker to see that their God is still very much still overweight at almost 300 pounds, if I remember right. Yeah, THAT's who's advice I want to follow! Anyways, I've only recently visited back there only to realize why I left. And @@CowgirlJane, don't worry, I've managed to piss off a lot of people on BOTH forums! F**k em all I say!

As for veterans on here, I don't know if I qualify, but am definitely OVER the "woe is me, I'm stalled" and "I only lost x pounds so I must be a failure" and "is it OK to eat this?" posts. I try really hard to ignore them, but sometimes I can't hit the back button fast enough. I'm thinking of posting a "STAY OF THE scale AND TRY USING THE SEARCH BUTTON BEFORE YOU POST ANOTHER STUPID QUESTION" thread on every subforum everyday to see if any of them actually notice.

Edited March 31, 2015 by Kindle

[CowgirlJane 14,259]

Me 3

I am not mean, just a realist.

@@Bufflehead

Ohhhhh...message me the names of these forums...

Me too...I can parachute in and be the "Bully" to them....

[BLERDgirl 6,417]

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As for veterans on here, I don't know if I qualify, but am definitely OVER the "woe is me, I'm stalled" and "I only lost x pounds so I must be a failure" and "is it OK to eat this?" posts. I try really hard to ignore them, but sometimes I can't hit the back button fast enough. I'm thinking of posting a "STAY OF THE scale AND TRY USING THE SEARCH BUTTON BEFORE YOU POST ANOTHER STUPID QUESTION" thread on every subforum everyday to see if any of them actually notice.

I cannot agree more. I've only 6 mths out and I'm sick of it.

[Cleo's Mom 257]

@losing the band:

I have an issue with this statement, honestly. Not all of us who had a failed surgery failed because we didn't follow the rules. I actually felt the way you do, until it happened to me, too. Stating that all people who have failed did so because they made mistakes is over-simplifying things, and to be honest, comes across as smug. Now I realize that some fail because they didn't follow the rules, but a huge number of us failed because the surgery failed us, especially those of us who started out with the lap-band.

I couldn't agree more. I remember on the lap band forum years ago - when someone was struggling with the band the band "cheerleaders & defenders" would always come back with this pat answer "The band didn't fail you, you failed the band". Now look at how many band patients have had so much trouble with the band that they are having it removed (despite following the rules).

Same goes with the sleeve - it hasn't been around as long as the band (at least as far as insurance covering it) so we don't know if down the road there may be similar failings like the band. Plus is it very obvious from posts on here that the sleeve doesn't work the same for everyone - from feeling restriction to providing satiety to improving or worsening GERD, etc.among other things.

[losing_the_band 133]

@@Cleo's Mom, that's exactly why I'm jumping through the hoops again for conversion to RNY instead of the sleeve. After being burned with the lap-band, I don't trust projected outcomes anymore. And I'm sure as hell not going to suffer with the band for another year or more, waiting to see if the sleeve is going to be as good as the projections predict. The lack of proven long-term stats on the sleeve, the number of people I've seen posting about getting revisions to RNY, and the fear of GERD (I lived with severe GERD for longer than I should have with my first band) has made my decision for me. I can't live with the band anymore, so I've got to do something NOW.

[Cleo's Mom 257]

Good luck to you on your new journey. After all you've been through I hope this new surgery is successful.

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

Here's a sample of advice from the guy described above:

http://www.gastricsleeve.com/forum/showthread.php?t=56837&p=511695&viewfull=1#post511695

Edited March 31, 2015 by VSGAnn2014

[LipstickLady 25,682]

Wait. His goal is 300!?!?? How tall is he!?!?!

[CowgirlJane 14,259]

I am not gonna diss someone for their goal - we each have our own journey. I think for someone who used to be in the 500-600# range, getting to 300 IS AMAZING. However...

The problem is that the newbies actually believe this advice is applicable to them because he is so strong in his statements. I am sorry my fellow middle aged ladies - if you are anything like me... you can't be "eating what I wanted, when I wanted and made just the way I liked it." and still attain anything close to a normal weight/size... and then have a prayer at maintaining it. I LIKE being in single digit sized clothing and would be unhappy if I was still plus sized after the WLS.

If you want the best chance at making your goals, follow your surgeons instructions. If you want more mentoring than that, pick a few people on these forums that are similar to you (roughly speaking, amount of weight lost, gender etc etc) who have had wild success and listen to them. That is what I did - and none of those very successful ladies who proceeded me ever said I could eat whatever I wanted.. prepared any damn way I wanted... Too bad because it would be deep fried red potato slices every night with dinner cuz that is exactly what I would enjoy the most. sniff sniff

[blondebomb 580]

I have become a picky eater as well. I crave good Proteins and good carbs. I don't eat fast food crap of any kind. My Snacks are rich in Protein.

I am no longer a Slave to food and I got this way by

1. Having weight loss surgery and purging my old behaviors before hand.

2. Sticking to the plan provided to me until I was released to eat regular food. And then stick sticking to the basic rules. Of getting my liquids in, Protein Vitamins and staying active

3. I don't eat anything I don't like, I find healty options I do like

4. I have told my brain and stomach that sugar and crappy food tastes horrible and it has worked for me. By the way, I don't dump so I could eat absolutely anything I want

This is all about getting right in the head. If you can do this it will be successful. If you are not ready for life to change for you, you will not succeed. WLS really is only a tool to help you get to your goal. The other 90 percent is totally up to you.

Now, I am about to go get on a cruise to Puerto Rico and Haiti for 9 days. My last cruise I lost 2.5lbs that week. I plan to do similarly on this one by living my new lifestyle. Lots of exercise and making sure I get good Proteins, lots of Water and take my Vitamins.< /p>

Bon voyage!!

have an awsome time!!!

[blondebomb 580]

I am a "realist" and this surgery is NOT for everyone. its the toughest thing I have ever done and it does require total commitment...I may get slammed for this comment but its definitly not for the weak at heart (or stomach) and I am NOT judging I am stating a fact for anyone looking into this sleeve. just saying...now..carry on

[missheidi47 127]

I'm only 2 weeks out, but I have followed my surgeon's instructions to the letter. Some of it is because that's just me - I follow the rules. Some of it is because I also work in healthcare, and I know that there is a good reason for the rules. I know that some people do everything right post op and still have issues/complications. But why would I not want to give myself the best chance of healing well and being successful? Of course, I also loathe throwing up, so I am going to make sure that I don't overeat, eat too fast, drink while eating, etc, if that will help me avoid it. So far it's working, so I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing.

At the end of the day, I think it's a choice. Like walking after surgery. You can choose not to walk, but you risk a blood clot. Not worth the risk to me.