Fear!!!!!

[Banded14yr 2]

Jodie,

I pm'd you my email address.

I'm very sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult time. This too shall pass.... I know that sounds too easy right now, but it will get better, you will move on and you will be a better person because of it. Trials and Tribulations build character. You sound like a very strong woman, if you've been expecting this and have been living unhappily for a year now, then you're due some happiness. Get through this time and you'll realize how this whole situation changed your life for the better.

Hang in there!!

[paula 4]

Trials and Tribulations build character.

Amen!!!!!

I am so very sorry to hear of this.

Has things been worst since your surgery?

As I read your 2nd response I noticed you mentioned him "sabotaging" you since you were banded. Something came to mind..... about 2 weeks after surgery my hubby was acting really weird. It took about another 2 weeks for him to open up and be absolutely honest with himself and me as to what his problem was. He would magnify any little ordeal into a MAJOR arguement, VERY sensitive - snap my head off for nothing.

Getting to the point, we realized that he was scared. Scared I would lose 100 pounds and leave him for another - better man! I realized that he was acting this was out of self defense....... Maybe your hubby is on the same planet as mine WAS on.

this is just food for thought (sorry about the pun).

Anyway, I agree with Tricia about trials and tribulations building character (awsome words) and know that time heals everything... well, MOST things!

God bless~

[DeLarla 22]

I'm gonna take this on a different spin and say congradulations to you. He probably did you the world's biggest favor, because now that the initial shock is over you can begin healing physically, emotionally, spiritually, and band-ularly all at once. Good luck to you during your fresh start. It might seem horrible now, but keep asking yourself where you'd be in five years if you were still with him. If there was no hope for your relationship, then you'd have wasted five years being unhappy, when instead this should be a time of celebration and success. Take it easy on yourself and enjoy your new life.

[Neicy 0]

Jodie, Sorry that you are having these problems. I pray that you find some peace and contentment in your life. I'm glad to hear that you are taking care of YOU. Good luck, sweetie.