Confession time: Can't stop lying about my surgery!

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

Ah, guilt.

Obviously, you committed a really huge crime -- you didn't compulsively share your private personal and medical decisions with the world.

Seriously ... why don't you explore why you think everyone is entitled to know all this?

If you want to be a WLS missionary and you have the time and tolerance to evangelize for WLS, Then go for it.

But making that choice is best done by those who are willing to invite some considerable ignorant commentary from folks who know nothing about WLS, some of whom will forever regard you as "one of those people." Are you open to that? Again, if you are then go for it.

But if you're not, don't do it. This is not a genie you can put back into the bottle.

Either way, you don't owe everyone a full recitation of your medical history and decisions. Stop thinking you do.

[Sherrykteacher 17]

I'd lie. I was honest and my co workers have been nasty to me! It is no ones business! If I had it to do over, I would have only told my husband!

[pixieredhead 79]

In my workplace I had 2 co- workers that were out for some time and were not discussing why. That led to a lot of people gossiping and speculating. Then I had another co- worker who had cancer and was very open about it. I noticed that no one was talking about him behind his back and everyone was very supportive. I chose to be honest and received a lot of support but can totally understand why some prefer to keep it quiet

I told people for the exact same reason. I felt there would be less whispers about me, my absence and dramatic weight loss and eating habits if i just told people the truth. I've had so much support that I'm very happy with my decision but can understand its not for everyone.

[Petunia1 114]

I did exactly What are saying . I only told very very few people . And honestly i regret telling "Close friends" . People can be very judgemental . Just stick with a sustainable lie like someone mentioned . And dont feel bad for lying , it's your privacy.

Edited September 21, 2015 by Petunia1

[IncredibleShrinkingMan 437]

Don't ask don't tell is the way to go. If somebody asks me, I am not going to lie (nobody has asked me point blank as of today), but I would kindly tell the person that he or she heard that in confidence and that I would respectfully ask that it not be passed around. I feel that is a more common occurrence if you have lost enough weight such that you have become unrecognizable. Weight is such an emotionally loaded topic in today's society that courteous people have simply stopped broaching the subject as they would've even a decade or two ago, unless there was genuine concern about your well-being. On that note, it is important to remember that just because nobody remarks doesn't mean they don't realize something huge is going on, and that it is likely that if a person is aware that these sorts of procedures are available, they may suspect that you underwent one, and that they have the decency not to inquire.

If you are dealing with people that are going to look down on you as having taken the "easy way out," well, then you have a few people to remove from your life and conscience IMHO.

[downsizingdiva 459]

DON'T ADD ANYTHING ELSE TO YOUR STORY THAN YOU ALREADY HAVE AND LEAVE IT AT THAT. IT'S NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS. LYING IS WRONG AND I'VE DONE IT TOO BUT PEOPLE ALSO SHOULDN'T BE NOSEY!!!! SO I THINK THEY DESERVE TO BE LIED TO IN A WAY - THAT IS HORRIBLE I KNOW - LORD FORGIVE ME....