female only 50 shades of Grey

[My Bariatric Life 764]

While I am not a fan of romance novels, the sex scenes in the trailers for 50 Shades of Grey aroused my curiosity enough to see the movie today. There was a lot of sex and some scenes were rather erotic, but what's missing is foreplay. If you've seen the movie what did you think of it?

[mrs kaje 347]

I haven't seen or read it but I love how (on mobile) your post goes "...the sex scenes in the trailers for 50 Shades of Grey aroused..." and I'm thinking 'Is she really going to say what I think she's going to say? ' then you go to the next line and it continues "...my curiosity".

As for the book/movie, I don't know why people don't just watch proper porn, haha.

[My Bariatric Life 764]

@@mrs kaje HILARIOUS!!! I think romance novels are cloaked porn for the faint of heart who could never admit to their desires (at least not publicly). My colleagues are discussing 50 shades on Facebook and its socially acceptable, which sort of fascinates me because they're discussing a movie/book that is centered around a bondage fetish. I am sure my colleagues would never discuss pornography on FB (and I am thankful for that).

So romance or porn, 50 shades is more a romance but there is a little more porn than is customary. Most romance novels are filled with sex but 50 shades goes a little deeper into sex because of the focus on BDSM (although inaccurately portrayed). But there is an intense emotional relationship between the lovers, as is true of any romance novel. The nature of their relationship was expected... I was saying some of the lines and plot twists before they occurred because it was so predictable. How did I know she would be a virgin? Predictable. For this movie to be rated good, I would have had to have seen the complete sexual act... but then it would be x-rated and likely not a box office hit. I am sure then my colleagues wouldn't be discussing it on FB!

Porn on the other hand has zero relationship between the people having sex. It lacks the emotional foreplay, pun intended, of a romance, where the intense longing for sexual intimacy builds and the sex is climactic. And so the rest of the story ebbs and flows in a very formulaic theme. Porn is more like the pizza delivery guy gets sex from the customer instead of a $3 tip. Ha!

A few years ago when the book was the rave in pop culture, I read an excerpt and the writing was absolutely awful. Really I should just sit down and write these. It would be easy money.

Clearly there will be a sequel... apparently there are three books in the series... reminds me of that vampire romance that was out a few years ago and very popular. The Hollywood formula, if something works, do it again.

What a long message... its nearly 5am and I cannot sleep, so this is what I do instead.

[pupichupi 124]

So I have read the books more than once, and I will say if you haven't read the book you might like the movies, but if you have read the books then the movie is definitely not going to live up to the books, the books are so much better. They didn't follow the timeline of the book and they changed things around from the book to the movie, and I was very disappointed in the movie, also the actor that played christian gray, he just didn't live up to the hotness description from the book. That being said I probably will still go see the movie of the rest of the books, but I would totally prefer to read the books again than watch the movie. You said that some of the sex scenes in the trailer are arousing, then you should really read the book, it is 100 times more arousing!!!

[lexiemustang 268]

Am I the only one who thought the movie was horrid? Someone described it as "two awkward people having sex" - I concur totally.

When I'm on my "bariatric work break" (i.e. post op) I'm going to read the books because I heard they were much better.

[pupichupi 124]

@@lexiemustang, you really should read the books, they are so much better!!! The movie totally did not compare at all!!!

[Mel24 51]

@@lexiemustang, you really should read the books, they are so much better!!! The movie totally did not compare at all!!!

Yes very much so! The books were so much hotter. I loved book 2, so I hope they do the sequel.

[2babutterfly 483]

Read the books and was very disappointed in the movie. If they do another prob won't go see it.

[mrs kaje 347]

When it first came out I read the sample on Amazon and the writing was so terrible that I had no interest in buying it to read the rest. I probably won't see the movie until it comes to TV.

[My Bariatric Life 764]

@@mrs kaje maybe if someone dog eared the sex scenes in the book for me I would read those, hahaha. I read somewhere that the lesson underlying the trilogy is about compromise and accepting people as they are. I like that. I like that a lot. I wonder if most people take that away from the story?

[My Bariatric Life 764]

@@Mel24 they definitely are. The author is arguing over more creative rights in the sequel.

[mrs kaje 347]

@@mrs kaje maybe if someone dog eared the sex scenes in the book for me I would read those, hahaha. I read somewhere that the lesson underlying the trilogy is about compromise and accepting people as they are. I like that. I like that a lot. I wonder if most people take that away from the story?

Uh, I think most chicks are just in it for the thrills

[My Bariatric Life 764]

@@pupichupi how deep do they get into BDSM in the books? Because if it got too much like the real thing, at least what I know the real thing to be, that would be a turn off for me. If you read my article True Love on BariatricPal then you know I like to be dominated in the bedroom, LOL, but not degraded or treated like a slave or have a ball stuck in my mouth and my arms hoisted up behind my back and hog tied...

[Mel24 51]

@@Mel24 they definitely are. The author is arguing over more creative rights in the sequel.

@@My Bariatric Life I also heard that Jamie Dorian was not going to do the sequels... Hmmmm. I am not sure if there is any truth to that, but I really didn't buy him as Christian. That's just me. I really liked the idea of Ian Sommerholder (sp) as Christian, and I can't get over the fact that he isn't him... KWIM?

[My Bariatric Life 764]

@@Mel24 I haven't watched TV in years (aside from Walking Dead on Amazon Instant Video) so I don't know who any of these people are. I think the actor who played CG would be nuts to pass up the opportunity. Its his ticket to stardom.