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I know this sounds supid... are there any restrictions on intimacy? I've been home 2 weeks, and feel fine. I never asked my doctor this, and I won't see him till Friday. Any advice?

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My Dr. said there are no time limits...just wait until we get out of the hospital parking lot....

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I know this sounds supid... are there any restrictions on intimacy? I've been home 2 weeks, and feel fine. I never asked my doctor this, and I won't see him till Friday. Any advice?

If I were you I woulld give it a try once my swelling is down and my level of pain has decreased. I would say as long as you feel comfortable and are not in pain go for it. Take some liquid tylenol first and go for what you know.

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Good Question!!

Something that crossed my mind too I have it on my list of questions to ask my doctor @ my consult. :)

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My Dr. said there are no time limits...just wait until we get out of the hospital parking lot....

:pound::pound:

I love that!!! That's great ~~ like a couple of school kids again!:clap2:

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My Dr. said there are no time limits...just wait until we get out of the hospital parking lot....

That cracked me up!! One of the guys asked that on their thread...said as long as you arent swinging from the chandelier.

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Had to laugh...this was my husbands first question after I got the date...so he told me "Hey...reach for your mate instead of your plate." Gotta love him...

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Well, ya'll have certainly been given better advice than I have. My doctor says eight weeks. Seriously. :)

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8 WEEKS? That doc is outta his ever-lovin' mind..did he say why? That sounds ridiculous...it was only 6 weeks after CHILDBIRTH..and I never waited THAT long anyway! What is his thinking?

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All I know is it has been two weeks and I sincerely doubt I will make it to eight.

Here are my post-op instructions word-for-word (caps included):

"SEXUAL ACTIVITY may be resume 8 WEEKS AFTER a lab-band. Non stressful positions should be utilized. If you are female and can conceive you need to use birth control. Please address any other concerns to our office."

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I waited 2 days n that was only coz i cudnt move properly with the trapped wind, Hmm thats attractive!!.

You have to be a little careful of positioning, if you know what i mean. I cudnt bare my husband to lie on me coz my scars were sore, but hey, where there a will, theres a way, hee hee.

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Oh My God... If my husband had heard that, he would have said NO lapband. I ended up trying, my husband would freak with any sound I made... we'll try again today ;)

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I just wanted to say that there are more than one way to be intimate. You could just lay together and cuddle. You could give each other intimate massages. You can always "speak your piece". ;) The main thing is, if it ain't comfortable or it's painful, it ain't happenin'. JM2CW.

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I Was Told No Sex The First Week After Surgery. I Guess Some Doctors Have Different Thoughts On This, But Damn 8 Weeks. I Just Don't Think So!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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